Tired that your child does not listen to you and tries to show that you do not know what their generation up to? Is your child talk’s maturely and is fed up from the Gyan you give them. Adolescence is the development age occurring from 11 to 21 years of age. It is very difficult to understand the child of this age.
Adolescence age is difficult for both – teenagers as well as their families. This is the time when hormonal changes occur in one’s body so, it is very difficult to understand them. But as a parent, it is your responsibility to understand your child. At this age, children love to spend their time with their friends rather than with their family members. Parents usually get frustrated with this thing that suddenly their child doesn’t want to spend his time with them. Children at this age, want to explore their life. They want to know who they are and what they want to become. They want their individuality. The person of this age goes through a lot of hormonal, physical, and mental changes.
Changes occur in girls like- breast enlargement, menstrual periods, growth of underarm, body and pubic hair, breast enlargement. Changes occur in boys involve – breakage of voice, growth of body, facial hair, etc. They want to look good so they feel concerned about their appearance. Adolescence is the age, where a person feels a lot of peer pressure. They want to show in society they have a nice life, they want their family, friends to praise them. In peer pressure or to show others, they try alcohol, smoking, drugs, unprotected sexual intercourse. These have a very bad effect on one’s life. These habits destroy one’s life. Parents should always be aware and they must know whether their child indulges in some ill- habits. If they are, then don’t get hyper, just talk to them like a friend and make them understand that this habit is bad for them.
One may feel stressed when hormonal changes started occurring in the body. Lack of concentration, confusion occurs on their mind. Some may have panic attacks, eating disorders, excessive sleepiness, depression, anxiety problem. Some may face sexual issues and issues like- unwanted pregnancy due to no knowledge of safe sex. All this is very stressful, parents should help their children in coming out of these bad situations. It is very essential to take care of one’s health especially at this age when hormonal changes started occurring in our body. One should consume a well-balanced diet and must do regular exercise as these habits are necessary for mental and physical fitness.
Eat dinner with your family as often as you can. Eating dinner with your children encourages healthy eating habits. It also allows you a chance to re-connect as a family, to discuss what went on during the day. When you eat together as a family, you know where your children are and what they're doing in the evenings, which makes it easier to curtail or control destructive behaviors. You all will feel connected in this way. If you share your emotions with your family, you will feel a sense of satisfaction inside you and you know, if something goes wrong, your family is always with you.
Here are some tips by Dr. Neha Mehta
1) Discipline is important when raising children, but punishment can ruin a child's future. Making the distinction between loving correction and angry retribution is critical; a child must learn to trust you before they will truly change their behavior.
2) To build love and trust between your children (while also correcting their wrong actions) repeat the fact that you love them, even in discipline. Also, wait until you are calm before delivering discipline; never act in fury.
3) Parents, this age is the time when children think that you are not up to their mark, you will not understand their issues, or discussing them with you will be of no use.
It was said that in adolescence age (11-17years) your child fire you from your job as their parents. You need to improve yourself, mold yourself according to them. Try to think like your child’s age so that they interview you, and keep you back as their consultant. Never yell at your children. It is best to talk to them with a calm voice, no matter how bad they are being. The more upset you get, the more upset they will get and things will spiral out of control very quickly. Keep your calm as much as possible. Maintaining distance at this age will bring difference for a lifetime between you and your child. So, try to be friends with them but don’t try to over-indulge in their. Don’t try to interfere in their life so much that they started feeling frustrated and uncomfortable.
During this age, discussion topics include: Sex education, Personality issues among friends, knowledge about fashion, how to be different and attractive, and need for love (problems). If you have one of those children that do not like to have their hair washed, consider making a mock salon in your home. It is a great way for you and your child to have a great imaginary trip to the salon and may make it a bit easier to get her to cooperate in washing her hair.“Nobody is a better guide to children than their parents”. This is what you know. A great parenting tip is to take time out of your busy schedule to spend with your child.
Don't get too caught up in your work or other things. Your child deserves attention and you should set aside enough time to spend with them from time to time. Let them follow this too not forcefully but happily. Playing outside with your child will benefit the both of you. Playing together outside will also help keep you both physically fit and help you to live happier, healthier lives. Feel free to consult a counselor for problems. We at Myfitbrain are always happy to help you! :)