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There are 2 reasons (I believe) why you need to read this blog:
You are a rational creature who is not affected by jealousy in any way and this is one way for you to come across jealousy and its effects. These are issues seen in your neighbors, friends, and mostly relatives. Most researchers believe that jealousy is not a single emotion, but a combination of many negative emotions. Some people might react with anger, while others might experience hatred feelings. For example, Every person shows different kinds of reactions when they get jealous.
Anger, hurt, resentment, upset and few other strong negative words (it can be easily found on google) all them or a combination of them is a result of jealousy. They might appear at different levels of intensity for different individuals. These reactions can be labeled as jealousy.
A situation perceived by a partner as threatening to a valued romantic relationship leads to jealousy. Jealousy is composed of thoughts, feelings, and coping behaviors. When a partner becomes aware that his/her love interest is happier with another partner, that person perceives it as a threat.
His / Her mind which was engaged in daily chores all of a sudden turns into an antenna capable of receiving any kind of signals, the capabilities at this moment is more like a superman/wonder woman, ability to hyper-focus on very simple and little things. They get insecure with a fear of losing their partner.
The second wave filled with negative emotions follows the realization of such a threat. Anger, frustration, rage, upset, hatred, hurt, regret all of these flashes with such speed it is capable of converting a sane human into a wild boar ready to attack at a slight movement.
Of course, we aren't animals and hence, our coping strategies (which have their own history) kicks in.
Ongoing through the following points, we will understand why we feel the emotion of jealousy:
Whenever we started doing a comparison with our partner, we feel complex.
If you are competitive in nature or your nature is competitive in some way, you might feel anxiety and jealous emotion.
Why did he/she do this? What have I done to him/her? Am I not attractive? Does the person love me or not? He / She would not have done this? He/ She should love me only and only me? and much more mostly come to mind.
3. Active distancing
Aren't we all experts in that! The famous silent treatment worked on you and hurt you very much and now you want to try it on your loved partner.
Would a person with such strong emotions and varied thoughts and confusion be able to have healthy communication with another? Maybe yes but mostly no added to these feelings one starts to distance not physically but emotionally with others. Their discussion would end up around the same topic at first it seems interesting later people start to avoid and pass comments.
The partner might choose to stay alone as he/she is overwhelmed and is unable to connect rationally with individuals lost in thoughts, conclusions, anything near or far from perceived reality becomes real transforming them as an ALICE/MARK lost in the wonderland. Until they take the initiative to speak to a therapist to understand their own self could help them look through the issues to bring both on the table and how to work through them.
So, what should be done by us to stop this jealousy and heal ourselves?
Here are some points:
If you think your partner will not understand you, and then talk to your close friend or any family member whom you trust the most.
If still, you think, you both are not able to resolve this issue then you both need a counselor.
So the next time you get jealous and start to distance your partner from yourself call a therapist and make this an opportunity to get to know yourself better.
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