Does your child throw things, shows anger or starts screaming, crying or hitting something by harming his/her body? When his/her wishes do not get fulfilled, this behaviour is known as Tantrums. These actions of your children somewhat makes you frustrated, morever sometimes you lose your anger and later on feel guilty for what you did.
Yes, they are perfectly normal for childern of age 1 to 3 years, although this behavior shows child development But exceeding the limit is quite harmful.
How we can pervent Tantrums?
Empathy simply means acknowledging what your children express or wish, reassurance can help to diffuse and divert their attention towards that need or want.
For example: say to your child with empathy “I can see you are upset” what can mamma do for you.
Try to cheer their mood by diverting.
Remember that expressing empathy doesn’t means that you are giving in to their demands.
You can use this tip when you cannot afford or think that giving what they want is good for them.
Still if your child continues to complain and starts argument with you, Calm down with sympathetic statement and say
“I heard you and I know that you really want that toy, but it’s not going to be possible.
EXPRESS WHY NOT
Your child has right to know why you are saying no their needs this will make them more subtle in future.
Offer choices whenever possible, like if they wish to buy some clothes, chocolates, or biscuits, want to watch cartoons or hear stories.
Before using these tips you must make sure that his demand is a something which is important in nature and must be fulfilled, secondly first time using these tools might increase their anger but in later ages, you will feel difference. Feel free to consult Counsellor.
In case you need any kind of help for your child, you can consult Child Psychologist online or you can visit your nearest clinic by booking an appointment with Doctor or you can contact us on +919050232637 (India) for online child counsellingin India.