Amidst the complexities of the 21st-century world and the pandemic, life must go on. Family life and professional duties remain, and the struggles continue. Life does appear a stressful battle but can't we make it a less terrifying scenario? A perennial question asked down the ages in every society traditional and modern is successfully Balancing Work & Personal Life. Consulting Clinical Psychologist Dr Neha Mehta throws expert light and suggests six strategies to reduce the friction between working and personal life.
Family duties and professional assignments combined can be daunting. Unlike most men who give almost all their attention to the office, women often manage fronts of the home and the workplace. Like circus jugglers, there seems no end to duties and harassments with not a moment of rest. Considering urban tensions and pollution, long commutes daily and office politics, it sometimes gets too much.
Getting the mind to relax is difficult but not impossible. Games and hobbies, social media friends, gossip and parties, according to interests. Why not yoga and meditation too?
Take the boss's words positively
Professionals of every kind in the government or private sector have differences with the boss. When the boss speaks harsh words, it seems temporary that the world has come to an end. Don't get disturbed or hassled. What happens to your 'izzat' or respect if such a scene takes place right in front of colleagues? Rather than the words, it is crucial to consider the intentions. Maybe the purpose is useful, and taking the terms would be better for everybody is concerned.
Are you blaming the office environment for your weak performance and suffering health problems? You are not alone, and many have such complaints. They feel suffocated and imprisoned in the office. How to maintain stability and remain calm amidst a sea of tensions?
Be punctual for work but don't overdo duties
Lots of research has been done on work ethics, duties and responsibilities. Achievements get their due rewards. Some people try to neglect work and give excuses for not performing. On the other hand, some try to do more than they are supposed to do. Arriving in the workplace before time and leaving after everybody else shows excessive attention to duties.
While it is essential to be punctual and fulfil the work entrusted relatively and responsibly, avoid excessive work. Carry out the duties and maintain a professional approach. If emergencies require additional work officially done, you will receive payment for that.
Enjoy occasional leave rather than piling them up
The culture of accumulating leave with the intention of an extended holiday, perhaps in the future gets in the way of happiness. Some may think that sickness may require leave. Not at all. Only work and more work will result in serious tensions of the mind and a suffering body. You need to take leave and do the things you like in the present. You need to enjoy life and find occasions to get rid of tensions and frustrations. Whether it is a movie or picnic, lunch at a favourite eating place or shopping, make sure that you get to enjoy a few moments.
Don't share personal life in office settings
Opinions may be fair in the office but be careful and don't express emotions and anger. Don't become a victim. Like a wall that separates family life and office duties, avoid mixing up both. Work officially at the workplace according to the terms and agreements in the appointment letter. Company's code of conduct and dress code are parts of every workplace. Don't reveal family secrets and avoid gossip concerning the family. Loose talk about personal life and family matters will lead to embarrassing situations and invite small talk. Surely you don't want to talk about your love life in the office surrounding?
Take short breaks frequently during office work
It is agreed universally that long stretches of office work can be exhausting. You need to take breaks and find ways of relieving the stress that is building up inside. To reduce the tensions of sitting at the desk all day long, take frequent breaks maybe once every fifteen minutes. How do most workers spend those short breaks? Drinking tea and coffee, perhaps or smoking for males.
Get physical exercise like climbing steps during those short, frequent breaks. They were maybe walking around the office building.
Don't carry the office burdens home and vice versa
An essential criterion in balancing home and office work is to avoid mixing them up! While you should not bring personal lives into the office, refrain from carrying home the office burdens. Naturally, work involves stresses like meeting deadlines. Though much depends upon the nature of work, it is true that all jobs require hard work and racing against time. Everybody feels that work should be lighter, and payments should be higher.
When you leave the office after work, let the work remain in the office. Don't shift the office work to the home.
Everybody wants to create a happy family environment. The danger is that office complication may enter the home and spoil the family spirit.
Balancing Work & Personal Life successfully, according to Dr Neha Mehta, can be achieved by following these six steps. Mostly commonsensical, you need to take a positive approach to what the boss says. Regarding work, try to be punctual and finish work according to deadlines but avoid overdoing work. If you arrive early and leave late, some will not appreciate the excessive interest.
Regarding leave, try to enjoy life with some break and avoid piling up leave to take a grand vacation that may never happen. Instead, concentrate on the immediate present and live life meaningfully. Don't carry your personal life into the office domain. Not everybody may be sympathetic, and some may be spiteful and jealous too.
You need to take care of the mind along with the body. Short breaks will invigorate and de-stress you with physical activities now and then throughout the working hours. Never mix up office and home. Don't carry office problems into the home. They don't mix like oil and water.