Emotional maturity is itself a heavy word to listen, and it is too much difficult to be mature. People learn as time passes. We become matured by time. If you ever think that you lack maturity ever, it can be mentally or emotionally, and you can follow some tips from DR. NEHA MEHTA, CONSULTANT PSYCHOLOGIST, HISAR, HARYANA. There are some ways to be mature. Those ways of thinking and exercise of mind help you to be grown. Dr Neha Mehta says that there are five types of methods that you can apply, and see the changes in you. Those tips assist you to feel that you are enriching your maturity even in 24 hours.
You may not want to be quickly affected by some simple reasons. You may not want to outburst emotionally, or you do not start crying for small things. You may wish you can develop patience level, and you can handle the situation. These are possible when you give attention to your maturity level. Now the question is how to be mature? Bare Kaise bane?
There are some simple tips for you –
Understand Your Resposibilities -
Try to understand your responsibilities. This tip is most effective; you must apply the way to be mature. Above the age of 25 years, people pay attention to understand their responsibilities. They are started to get to know what they should do in a situation. How much they see in other words. They stay alert for those problems or those comments of the outsiders. They are trying to avoid the judgemental comments of outsiders for you. Because they started to stretch their maturity and pay focus on their responsibilities, it is an important way to increase your maturity level – focus on your responsibilities and do for it.
You should pay attention to your present job, and remove all the thoughts about those comments of strangers. Sometimes people say if a person did early marriage and she or he has babies, that person becomes mentally mature. This maturity comes from their duties, their responsibilities.
As soon as you make an effort and set foot in a responsibility circle, you can avoid the strangers. You can leave the process to fill up with those things like, why another makes negative comments for you, some judgemental statements from outsiders, or how can you make someone pleased. These tips are helping you to be a mature person.
Be Realistic -
It would help if you thought about reality. It is essential to be realistic to grow your maturity level. Do not be alert for past problems or adverse comments are made for you by someone, which comments were hurting you and what he or she will make statements for you in the future. You may not understand how to be mature? You should leave these things and see the changes in you. You can realize that you are increasing your mental and emotional maturity.
Time is a dynamic process, time does not stay for anyone or any reason, and time always keeps going towards the future. Do not think that one person had hurt you before; it means he or she will hurt you ever. Always remember that life is moving, problems are changing, and challenges are shifting. If a person still thinks about past matters or future guises, psychologists call him or her an emotionally immature person. But bare Kaise bane?
Live in Today -
You should follow today’s situation, not to think about past matters or future guises. It would help if you realized that today what you are achieving and what are your responsibilities for your life. If you can make these changes in you and continue the thinking practices that you have to face today’s reality. And these processes will make you mentally and emotionally healthy.
DR. NEHA MAHTA says that do not talk about what is in the past. Talk about how the present is moving. It is an essential task if you want to grow mature. These are signs of emotional maturity and strength.
Put Yourself in Other's Shoes -
If someone tells you something and those words hurt you a lot. You may be emotionally outburst and start crying, may those words are too much painful for you and you are thinking about to harm or injure yourself. At that time, you cannot handle yourself; you cannot understand what should do in that situation.
In this situation, you should put yourself in other shoes. That means, think about the reason why the person hurt you. Is there any compulsion behind the words that he said to you? Is he feeling bad for those comments? Now you try to understand the reasons or why those emotions he has thrown to you. He may feel helpless. Maybe it has happened for his mental condition.
There can be many reasons behind the matter or the situation. But it would help if you put yourself in other’s shoes. If you think from that side and realizing the conditions or compulsions, it is a good sign of emotional maturity and strength.
Stop Blaming Others -
Try to stop blaming others for your situation or others’ negative statements for you. Always remember you cannot handle others; you only can take yourself. Everyone has different personalities. You have to make your personality healthy mentally and emotionally.
Look at yourself, who are you, and you can handle your situation and stay focused on your goal. Stop blaming others; start to enrich your significant maturity level. These are signs of emotional maturity and strength.
Express Gratitude -
If you want to enrich your maturity level, you can help others. Listen to them, their problems, and try to solve those problems. Become a good listener, and think about the solutions. If you help others; that means you are growing your mental and emotional maturity level.
People learn as time passes; it means maturity is growing by time. There are many problems in your life, but you have to solve those problems. Be mature. If you want to raise your maturity level, you can follow those above five tips and see the changes in you. You can feel that you are enriching your maturity level.
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