Dealing with Temper Tantrums in Kids | Child Psychologist

Nishtha Dhull
Child Behaviour

28 Nov 2020
Dealing with Temper Tantrums in Kids | Child Psychologist

Temper Tantrums are emotional outbursts of anger and frustration. Tantrums typically begin around age 12 to 18 months and reach their peak during the “terrible temper”. This is the period in child development when children start to gain a sense of self and assert their independence from their parents. It’s also a time when children can’t speak yet well enough to make their needs known. This combination is a “perfect storm” for temper tantrums. Tantrums are a normal part of childhood development and they don’t occur because you have been a bad parent or because you have done something wrong. Temper tantrums are exceedingly common in children, especially between ages 1-4. Some children are more prone to tantrums, particularly kids who are intense, hyperactive or moody, and kids who don’t adapt well to new environments. A tantrum is an episode of extreme anger and frustration characterized by crying, screaming, violent, body motions including throwing things, falling to the floor, and banging one’s head, hands and feet against the floor.

Signs/Symptoms of Temper Tantrums

A temper tantrum is a very common occurrence in pre-school children. The parents must have knowledge of the following symptoms:

Shouting, crying and screaming

Rolling on the floor

Kicking and biting unexplainably

Stamping foot on the ground

Pounding fists on a surface

Holding breath for a long time

Breaking things and stamping on them

Hitting a person or a pet animal

Stubborn attitude

Pulling hair and making unusual faces

Resistive behavior when someone tries to show affection

Causes of Temper Tantrums

Temper Tantrum arises from several factors. Most common factors are as follows:

  • Mental irritation and agitation when the people around cannot understand or not listening to the child.
  • Lack of words to fully express the feelings and demands.
  • Irritation aroused due to the inability to solve different problems on their own.
  • Anger and Stubbornness when people discourage the child from different activities.
  • Tiredness and Sleeplessness
  • Anxiety
  • Inherited Behavioural Traits
  • Overstimulation due to activity and excitement.
  • Disruption of normal routines such as timely feeding, bathing, and sleeping.
  • Certain development phenomenon like “teething”.
  • Teasing or irritation caused by some unknown person.

Preventions/Dealing with Temper Tantrums

Some of the preventions that are designed by expert psychologists of My Fit Brain, helpful for dealing with temper tantrums. 

Following are the preventions that you should follow to deal with temper tantrums:

Reduce Stress

Tired, hungry, and overstimulated children are more likely to experience temper tantrums. If you’re aware of your child’s feelings, you might be able to sense when big feelings are on the way of tantrums and you can easily reduce the stress.

Talk about emotions 

Talk about emotions with your child. When your child struggles with difficult feelings, encourage him/her to feel good and happy. Acknowledge your child’s frustration and let your child know that you understand their emotions can sometimes help them calm down, especially if they’re looking for attention.

Communicate with them

Parents should communicate with their kids. Don’t underestimate his activity to understand what you are saying. Tell him the plan for the day and stick to your routine to minimize surprise.

Teach your child

Teach your child other ways of dealing with frustration. Children who are old enough to talk can be reminded to use their words instead of screaming.


Whenever your child behaves well, you should praise your kid to their behavior.  This will reinforce good behavior and lower down the temper in your kids. You can appreciate them by saying some simple phrases such as “Very Good! You did it very well”; “Keep it up” or by awarding them some prize such as chocolate, their favorite food or taking them to their favorite place.

Establish a routine 

A consistent routine on schedule lets your child know what to expect and gives them a sense of security. You can also consult to a Child Psychologist or Special Educator to maintain a good daily schedule for your kids. You can get connected to us at

Be a role model 

Kids look up to their parents and are constantly observing their behavior. If your child sees you handling your anger and frustration calmly, they will be more likely to mimic your behavior when experiencing these feelings.


It is a set of techniques believed to cure or help to solve temper tantrums in children. It helps them to feel positive, as well as accepting their strong and weak points.

There are various types of psychotherapy to overcome from tantrums

 Behavioural Therapy:

It is focused on helping the child to understand how changing behavior can eventually lead to changes in the feelings. Emphasis is made on focusing on increasing the child’s engagement in positive or socially reinforcing activities.

Play Therapy:

It is the way the child expresses themselves their toys and actions may become their words. So, play therapy can help children to improve their emotional skills or temper tantrums to help them think in a different way. Therefore, we can easily that it is not that difficult to handle your child's tantrums. You just need to understand their emotions and observe their thinking process.  Maybe your child has symptoms of anxiety or depression. If yes, what are you waiting for? Book an appointment of a good counselor and let your child help to get rid of any mental health problem.  

If you are also seeking for the help for your child’s temper tantrum or emotional anger outburst, MY FIT BRAIN is the best platform providing you the Best Child Psychologists who are holding a very vast experience in treating behavioral and psychological issues in kids.

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