There is always a tendency of questioning in human beings and one of the areas of curiosity is love and attraction. There are instances when you are touched by a transgender and you feel all aroused and the feelings rise. This makes them wonder whether they have feelings for transgender or not and even ponder over whether is it wrong to feel towards a transgender. In this article, we will briefly discuss whether or not can one love a transgender and how to deal with attraction towards transgender. First, look at whether it is right or wrong to feel for a transgender.

Is it Wrong to Feel Towards a Transgender

Any human emotion is always questioned whether it is for anyone. Similar is the question: is it wrong to feel towards a transgender? Some people feel attraction towards transgender. It may be a bit different to hear when someone expresses their feelings for LGBTQ community. Love is an emotion that can be felt anytime and anywhere and even for anyone but it is often confused with attraction be it mental or sexual infatuation or even concern. Therefore, it is essential to look at whether there are true feelings or not. In answering the question: can one love a transgender? We will be looking at answering it.

No, it is not wrong to feel transgender. There are times when you can feel attraction towards a transgender and there is nothing wrong with it. It may concern you with your identity and other psychological aspects. There are times when you may feel aroused by a transgender and it can be because you may belong to the LGBTQ community. There is nothing wrong with this and you can surely express your love. But if you are married and then you feel attracted towards a transgender then it can be an issue. If you want to live a normal life with your wife or husband and also want to have pleasure with the transgender and want to make a balance between them. It is not right. It is more or less an extramarital affair. It is always suggested that in this case, you must take therapy. Having attraction towards transgender is wrong if you are also attached to another relationship. Hence the question: is sexual attraction for transgender right ends up with the explanation that there is nothing wrong in feeling transgender bt understanding your identity and looking at whether it is right or not is important.

The feeling of attraction may not be physical or of identity but it can also be mental attraction and you need therapy. You should know what to do if your children is caught watching porn as it can lead to attraction to identity issues and understanding love differently. There are arguments over whether is it ok to be with transgender physically. There are different things for what to do if you feel for transgender and we will be looking for them in the next section.

How to Deal With The Attraction

By now you might have understood whether is it wrong to feel towards a transgender or not. Feeling attracted towards transgender is a normal feeling and correct as well. But if you are just sexually attracted to them for your benefit or are married and want to have both partners in life then it is not correct. In this section of the article, we will be telling you how to deal with the attraction if you don't want to pursue it. As you know about whether is it correct to love a transgender, then pursuing your love being single is not wrong but in other cases, this is what you can do.

1. Identifying Your Identity

There can be moments or episodes when you feel attraction towards transgender. This may happen because you are not aware of your own identity. You may not be aware of your sexuality whether your love interest lies in the opposite gender or the same gender as you or both, etc. This is because you are not taught or told about it. Learning how to talk to children about sex benefits in explaining to children about sexualities and the correct meaning of sex and love relations. Then the qualities of: can we marry a transgender can be sorted as you are aware of your feelings and sexuality which will not arouse any confusion.

2. Consider Visiting a Therapist

When you ask about: is it correct to love a transgender? Often you may also end up questioning your feelings and doubt it. If you are married, visiting a psychotherapy center can help you recognize your true self and understand where your true interest lies. If you love your wife it will help you drift away from your attraction and if you identify yourself with the transgender then it will help you to talk out with your wife. Many times people question: is sexual attraction for transgender right? This then depends on how you see them. Being lustful is not right and therapy helps you avoid such feelings and cures you of sexual attraction.

3. Control Your Thoughts

One thing to do when you don't know what to do if you feel for transgender is to control your thoughts. One of the sources of wild thoughts develops in childhood due to porn and web series. This is one of the bad effects of web series on children. It gives rise to certain fantasies or desires which are not right. Later people question whether is it ok to be with transgender physically or not. Learning to control your thoughts and feelings while already in a relationship is important as it will help you synthesize what you want and avoid unnecessary conflicts in your life. It will also help you maintain the relationships you have in your life and identify what you want.

4. Strengthen Your Relationship With Your Partner

If you are still wondering whether is it correct to love a transgender or not. Then consider improving your relationship with your partner. If you are not having any issues with your sexualities or identities and you are married then there is a lack of trust, commitment, and love in your relationship with your partner and then you must consider working on your relationship. Learning how to improve family relations helps in building trust, and companionship with your partner. The answer to: is sexual attraction for transgender right depends upon how deep your feelings are. If you are not fond of your current partner and wish to spend life with a transgender, you can converse with your partner and make mutual decisions.

5. Understand it is Not Good For The Long Term

Another thing you can do when you don't know what to do if you feel for transgender is to understand that it is not good for the long term. People argue: is a relationship after marriage right? No, it is not right. You must understand any extramarital affair won't serve you happiness. People also question: can we marry a transgender? However, the emotions may change over time which won't be good for the long term. Knowing that a relationship with a transgender will require a lot of strength as there will be a lot of ups and downs and even conflicts hence taking a proper improvised decision is important.

Conclusion

By the end of this article, it must have been clear whether is it wrong to feel towards a transgender or not. The feeling raises questions like: can one love a transgender or can we marry a transgender? There are basic identity issues that pop up with the stimulation that takes place. But what to do if you feel for transgender? There are many things you can do. First of all, try to figure out your identity. If you feel that you want to live life loving a girl or a boy only then consider visiting a therapist to find a solution for your attraction. Find out whether the attraction is sexual or felt by heart and why you feel that way. This helps in answering many of the rising doubts.

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Frequently Asked Questions

1 What is the LGBTQ Community?

 

LGBTQ community is a group of people who don't identify themselves as either girl or boy (Transgender) or have a sexual or emotional attachment with their gender (Lesbian for girls feeling for girls and Gay for boys feeling for boys) or for both the genders (Bisexual) or have any such other identity issues (Queer). These people often face issues with mixing up and opening up in front of others. There is LGBTQ counseling which helps such people to identify their sexuality and live their lives happily.

2 How to differentiate between attraction and love for transgender?


Understanding how to know whether it is love or attraction is not easy as love is often taken as mere attraction. There are differences you can see like if you have sexual feelings always for the other person then it is not love. Even if the other person is transgender you would feel respect and would try to know them and keep their happiness above yours if you truly love them. Love will teach you to wait and value the person but attraction will want you to always seek their attention and prioritize yourself rather than the other person.

3 Is love different for a transgender?


There have been views over whether love is different for transgender. Though the definition of love can be the same, the feeling and expression both change according to people. Love for transgender can be difficult and people at first don't accept them. How can society accept the idea of love? Many questions: can we marry a transgender? There is no wrong in marrying and loving a transgender but courtship of this love can be difficult.

4 Is it possible to love a transgender?


Yes, it is possible to love a transgender and even spend life with them but the question of whether can one love a transgender has raised many doubts on the concept of love and identity. Love can be felt for anyone but you must make sure that it is love and not lust, attraction, or infatuation. Transgenders are also human so there is no wrong in feeling for another human. You can love a transgender as a straight person or even if you belong to the LGBTQ community because love is an emotion stimulated by hormones.

5 Do I have sexuality issues if I love a transgender?


Yes or may or maybe can be the answer to the above question. Knowing whether is it ok to be with transgender physically can concern your sexuality and can also not concern your sexuality. There are times when you have feelings for anyone from the LGBTQ community and you may be a straight person but many times there are sexuality issues that one can face. You may be a lesbian gay or bisexual when you feel for a transgender and there is nothing wrong in belonging to the LGBTQ community.

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