An elderly couple, married for almost 35 years, has been coming to me for counseling for the past 5 or 6 weeks. Before that, only the wife had approached me and I did about 5 or 6 therapy sessions with her alone. I listened to her and understood that it's not going to be resolved if only one partner seeks counseling. However, she was too weak, almost suicidal, and didn't have the courage to ask her husband to join the counseling sessions.
My first job was to work on her self-esteem and appreciate that she's done the right thing by approaching a counselor. Secondly, she also got the courage to speak up with her husband. A few months later, both of them approached me together and the most positive aspect was that both were willing to work on their marriage. They had a distressed married life for almost 35 years and on the verge of divorce. Both were devastated and in depression. Now, after about 5 sessions with each of them, happy to note a few positive changes in both of them. I'm feeling blessed that I have been chosen as a mediator to keep a couple/family glued together despite 34 years of distress. From there, as of today, the woman is in a much better place. She's working on her entrepreneurial plans. She's starting something of her own. Her husband has a balanced approach to his career and family. It's a blessing to see a couple together happily and peacefully.