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FEAR OF BEING THE BAD PARENT

FEAR OF BEING THE BAD PARENT

Most of the Parent that are concerned “me achi Parenting kar to paa ri hun na! 

mjhe hi galti hui h tumhe palne me!”

Rather than: Parenting with flow!

They are much more worried about their behavior about their behavior with kids! Rather than improving their children!

Advices are the statements that give negative outcomes more than positives in today’s world. Fearful Individual is fearful Parents. MY FIT BRAIN helps you to Judge yourself, in these categories what type of fearful Parent you are!

  1. EXPERTANT PARENTS: Parents who values good performance and achievements in life. OUTCOME IS WHAT MATTER TO THEM not because of social eye but Personal nature. As a result, they suffer from fear of future. Their expectation on kid creates pressure and kid mostly comes turn out be aggressive and violent.
  2. BULLET PROOF PARENTS: Parents who always protect their children from Obstacles of life. Worried ‘SOMETHING MIGHT HARM THEIR KID! Their fear makes the kid indecisive, secretive and dependent on their Parents.
  3. Yes, ok! Parents: Parents who wants to be in the cool category! who agrees to all terms and demands of kid! Just due to fear of getting rejected by their own kid. A result, children become over confident and unrealistic.
  4. Lavish Parents: the individuals who behave in luxury. They provide expensive lifestyle to their children as they suffer from fear of social pressure. Their children are materialistic brand conscious, they fear misery, As they feel comfortable in excess.
  5. ‘Me’ Parents: They are those who value their individuality than anything else. They fear, the loss of their freedom if they make a strict Parenting plan. They stick to their opinions. The confused children are lonely and fear being left alone.

 

Many Anxieties and Fears Are Normal

Anxiety is defined as "apprehension without apparent cause." It usually occurs when there's no immediate threat to a person's safety or well-being, but the threat feels real.

Anxiety makes someone want to escape the situation — fast. The heart beats quickly, the body might begin to perspire, and "butterflies" in the stomach soon follow. However, a little bit of anxiety can actually help people stay alert and focused.

Having fears or anxieties about certain things can also be helpful because it makes kids behave in a safe way. For example, a kid with a fear of fire would avoid playing with matches.

The nature of anxieties and fears change as kids grow and develop:

  • Babies experience stranger anxiety, clinging to parents when confronted by people they don't recognize.
  • Toddlers around 10 to 18 months old experience separation anxiety, becoming emotionally distressed when one or both parents leave.
  • Kids ages 4 through 6 have anxiety about things that aren't based in reality, such as fears of monsters and ghosts.
  • Kids ages 7 through 12 often have fears that reflect real circumstances that may happen to them, such as bodily injury and natural disaster.

As kids grow, one fear may disappear or replace another. For example, a child who couldn't sleep with the light off at age 5 may enjoy a ghost story at a slumber party years later. And some fears may extend only to one particular kind of stimulus. In other words, a child may want to pet a lion at the zoo but wouldn't dream of going near the neighbor's dog.

Signs of Anxiety

Typical childhood fears change with age. They include fear of strangers, heights, darkness, animals, blood, insects, and being left alone. Kids often learn to fear a specific object or situation after having an unpleasant experience, such as a dog bite or an accident.

Separation anxiety is common when young children are starting school, whereas adolescents may experience anxiety related to social acceptance and academic achievement.

If anxious feelings persist, they can take a toll on a child's sense of well-being. The anxiety associated with social avoidance can have long-term effects. For example, a child with fear of being rejected can fail to learn important social skills, causing social isolation.

Many adults are tormented by fears that stem from childhood experiences. An adult's fear of public speaking may be the result of embarrassment in front of peers many years before. It's important for parents to recognize and identify the signs and symptoms of kids' anxieties so that fears don't get in the way of everyday life.

Some signs that a child may be anxious about something may include:

  • becoming clingy, impulsive, or distracted
  • nervous movements, such as temporary twitches
  • problems getting to sleep and/or staying asleep longer than usual
  • sweaty hands
  • accelerated heart rate and breathing
  • nausea
  • headaches
  • stomachaches

Apart from these signs, parents can usually tell when their child is feeling excessively uneasy about something. Lending a sympathetic ear is always helpful, and sometimes just talking about the fear can help a child move beyond it.

 

Think if you are fearful as parent!

Stop raising your kid with daily dose of fear. Your fearful upbringing will surely make your children compromise with his natural personality.

Feel free to consult Parent coach or child psychologist online, at www.myfitbrain.in  who will guide you better. We are happy to help you!!!


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