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Saying it simply, counseling is consulting with a therapist who is an objective, non-judgmental and professionally trained person, with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and feelings. This helps you to understand yourself better and helps you to address your emotional difficulties in a more adaptive fashion. These difficulties could be something you are facing in day to day life, a situation you are unable to deal with, a decision you find difficult to make, a relationship you find difficult to handle, a past you are unable to get over or emotions and feelings you find difficult to accept and deal with. Counseling involves a relationship with the therapist, based on trust and honesty from both sides. All interactions you have with the therapist are extremely confidential and in no way will be revealed to anyone, however close to you, unless you explicitly request the therapist for the same. It is obligatory for the therapist to be absolutely honest with you too.


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Any emotional problem or difficulty has its roots in our inner nature. Our feelings depend on how we think about ourselves, others and our situations. Often we think in ways that are not rational or we think about situations mistakenly. This is not because we are “foolish” or “wrong” in any way but because we have learnt to think of certain things only in certain ways. Being professionally trained to be unbiased and objective, a therapist is able to help you look at the negative or irrational patterns of thinking, which provides you with some clarity of perspective and helps you, deal with the problem more effectively. In addition, the psychotherapist is able to provide you with tools and techniques to work on those difficulties. When you expect a magical or a quick fix solution from counselling, there is space for disillusionment. It is a slow process where you first accept that some changes are required within you and you progressively work at making those changes. Expecting the therapist to make your decisions or solve your problems will lead to your disappointment. She does not make your decisions, but helps you make and accept your own decisions and trust in them. She is a support system for you. In your worst moments, your therapist will stand by you without judging you for your mistakes; however, she will also point out when there are mistakes.


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Normalcy is perhaps one of the most hyped myths. There is no definition of normalcy. It consists of perhaps a group of personal reactions and situations that society finds desirable. However, all of us deviate from that standard in some or the other way. Requiring counseling simply means you are perhaps in a situation, which may be an external or internal situation, where you are confused and disturbed and you need help to work with that situation.


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The therapist is your friend. She has your concern the closest to her heart. However, she is a professional and like every profession, being a therapist too comes with a code of dos and don’ts. Hence you pay for her time with you. Most of the time involved in therapy is focused on dealing with your emotional difficulties. However you can occasionally talk to her about your and her hobbies, passions and interests, provided they are not a means of keeping the primary issue at bay. If and when she feels that is happening, she would be sure to let you know. Also if you wish to call her when you are unable to deal with some feeling or situation and if it is a brief talk, you may. If it requires some length of time for discussion you would need to request for a sooner appointment.


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On the contrary! Therapy aims at making you independent and helps you to believe in your own decisions and accept their consequences. During the initial stages of psychotherapy, however, you may feel like seeing your therapist often. You may feel uneasy if she is not available as per your requirements. That is primarily because you have started to look at your difficulties in a different light, which is making you uneasy and confused and you need her for reassurance. It is also because you are glad to have that new found support and you feel less lonely with her around. This is however only initial and will wear off in a few months as your belief in yourself increases and as you feel more comfortable being yourself in front of others. Remember, counseling is not a crutch for weak people. People who choose it are those who have set out to make a difference to their lives by initiating change rather than passively waiting for situations to change.


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Your therapist is as human as you are and so your problems do touch her. Hers is a caregiver’s role. She cares for you deeply because she sees herself now in a role where she needs to ensure your well-being. At the same time, she is also equally cares for all the other people she is seeing simultaneously. Hence, she may at times be busy for you, may not be able to attend to you immediately, may not receive your calls instantly and this may make you feel less cared for. That, needless to mention, is untrue. You make her a part of your life and trust her with your innermost thoughts. Be certain, she respects that and will not be careless with you. However, you must talk to her about the way you feel, if you feel she is less involved.


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First of all, be calm. Your child is not abnormal, it's just she needs help. Sometime due to fixation child gets into stress, which makes her occupied with her own thoughts. Communication is the only key, the more you let your child open, she will automatically gets engaged in other activities like playing , eating etc. As you illustrated, she can speak but she don't share. I advice you to take her to the child psychologist or counselor, get her assessed and then, come to the conclusion of normal or abnormal. You both parents, should take her to the psychologist, be support to her ( child) , she needs you both. Then opt for counselling, once she will be able to ventilate, she will be fine.


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Hello sir!!! Your child teacher was right in stating that your child is special and he needs special education. This will benefit kid enormously. As the childhood history you stated are: 1. Slow in learning words / speech. 2. Started walking at age of 3 3.slow in learning basic routines. 4 developmental delays. the symptoms you illustrated are signalling that your kid might be a slow learner. Slow learner keep a pace in learning new things as compared to their friends,but reach milestones. Delays can be linguistic,social and motor too My piece of advice for you would be : 1. Get your child assessed by child psychologist for I.Q. and diagnosis. 2. Get his behavioural therapy done, so that his behavioural delays combact 3.special education is important As it means to teach kid the basic rather than curriculum burdens. It starts with basic fine motor and phonomics studies ( swar , vyanjan). It doesn't go with other children, special education only works with your child speed of learning 4. Parent effort So what u can do for your child : 1. Praise : praise on the effort Not on result. 2. Talk and talk: talk open ended questions about Anything.. Try to involve in more verbal cause. 3. Gross motor activity : Don't worry about fine motor ability for ex: u told your kid to bring shoes:: If he even went to the direction of shoerack but Bought mother's sandals that s okay , appraise him. 4. Encourage him for dance and other physical activity. 5. With your keen efforts, your kid will decrease the pace with normalcy. All the best !!!


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I'm 22 years old male, basically from a middle-class family. I am a student of B.Com final year and am an average student. For last six month my life is not running smooth. It has changed suddenly. I had a girlfriend. I really loved her a lot even still now I love her. But six months before I have caught her in a movie Hall with another one guy. Then I came in front of her in the parking area and found she was behaving differently with me. That boy also abused me, I loosed my temper and slapped and have slapped her as well. Before this incident, I haven't loose my mind like this, but I'm not feeling any guilt by slapping both of them at that time. That day after the fight she has accepted that that boy is her boyfriend and also threaten me by saying that the boy has some political connection so I should keep distance. I loose my mind again as it directly hit on my ego and again mess up with that boy. But I was alone in front of his gang of five boys; so beaten up badly and was hospitalised after a good fight. I couldn't reveal my original incident to my parents; I lied to my parents. But I'm trying to control myself, not able to forget her. Out of my control I have called my ex-girlfriend many times but she gave me a very cold reply. I miss her a lot, I miss her love and care towards me. I want to be happy again in my life but don't know how?? I feel cheated, rejected, lonely. Tried to divert my mind from the thoughts of my ex but I couldn't. I have changed my routine, changed my target, have started preparing for civil services but still not able to concentrate. Her thoughts are coming into my mind again and over again. Help me, please.

Hello dear!! I can understand the pain you are going through. Your love hasn't weakend you mentally even physically too . First of All, I m happy to that you we're loyal in this relationship but tell Me, can you force anyone to love you??? I know it's easy for me to say you the same, because I'm not at your place( Bolna asaan h ) But brother, going after a thing who doenst belong to you, will only make you weak Sometimes,leaving things to destiny is a better option. Issues mentioned by you: 1. Not able to forget her( her love and care) 2. Unable to concentrate on work and divertion 3.want to be happy again. 4. Feeling of rejected, lonely and tired. 5. Thoughts of past. Let's understand the reality first dear 1. You loved her (your wish ) - she cheated you ( her conscious) - you slapped them( reacting extremely , not able to control emotion)- physically beaten ( his boyfriend's response) - she's not replying ( her wish/ guilt) - you still miss her ( because you need time). In this whole process, nothing happened that you can conclude,(you are wrong person,you don't know how to love someone) So, let your thoughts positive The whole process was response to response. So my suggestion for you are: 1. Accept what happened: It's common in this age, time will heal everything, I know it won't heal your sore, but give you power to bear. 2. Express: if you feel , you can't share with your parents,share with your sibling, cousin , friends , don't apply face of I'M OK!!! cry, shout , take help!!!! Or you can write it on paper and flush it ( jab we met types) It sounds stupid but it works.😊 3. Don't loose confidence, Self talk with sentences like, I can overcome easily, I have to study first, I have to move on. Either let me tell you an exercise,make a paper and list all positive things about your life, keep on reading them when you feel bad. 4. Cut off communication with her,don't text and call her, control by deleting her from everywhere( photos,gifts,cards)don't stalk her on social media , moreover save your friends no,talk to her. 5. Move on ( FORGIVE AND FORGET),try to find a companion,may be someone better is waiting for you Everything happened for good. Thank your life, for giving you the experience in life and chance to be strong. 6. Don't jump to destructive decision: Pls Don't!!! Alcohol, smoking, poisoning, they will not make you strong either make your body weak. 7.keep yourself busy : Join some new hobby,coaching classes and free library , reading novels , morning walk with friend, Don't exercise and strain yourself more. Understand It's only to keep your busy. 8.you can catch up with your friend and fun too,party , get together.moreovr,Go and visit your parents,spend time there. 9. You can start tuition class to small kids,kids love is so pure ,it works better than time . 10. Study issues: I know it's not difficult to concentrate on civil exam now, A. Set small target. B. Relaxed scehdule. C. Frequent breaks And understand, you will take some time to get back to normal concentration,don't judge yourself more,Go with flow. 11. In case you need help,you can visit counsellor and opt for CBT THERAPY.. LASTLY, dance out and sing out and music therapy will help you too. Be strong. Not because I'm saying So,because you need to and U CAN !!! I Know you will be better soon!!


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Dear, Life only means ups and downs, moreover, god gives difficulties in life to those who believes has power to live upto them. YOU ARE POWERFUL! I can really sympathize with you by reading all the situations you faced since your childhood If it was someone else, they must have lost hope , You are really a STRONG WOMAN. As the current problems you mentioned: 1. History of disturbed events made you fearful. 2. You feel lonely due to loss of love support in your life. 3. Worried, as you feel more problem will make you weak. 4. Lost trust in people as you hurt once. 5. Loss of confidence as you were victim of bullying at work. 6. Negative thoughts of past and future denies you to live in present. Don't worry, these situation made you so strong for future that you will set a strong example for your daughter. And remember, every great lady has the history of so much downs like you have be it IndraGandhi or mother teresa . YOU WILL SHINE. So, my piece of advice for you will be: 1. Don't loose hope: you have your whole life standing, invest your energy in positivity like meditation, self improvement. 2. Book your appointment with counselors nearby and go for motivational sessions. 3. Art of living courses will also take you out of answers or dilemma. 4. Join english improvement classes to cover up what you are weak in. Real life heros are those who corrects their problem as they come. 5. Take proper nutritious food, you will have a strong future lady. Eat to support yourself. 6. Every second person is getting hurt in relationships these day , don't linger , MOVE ON, wait for that right one who will take you in the dream land with him. If you got hurt once, it doesn't means you will not try again. 7. Don't lose self confidence, you join motivation enhancement classes at wellness centres nearby. 8. You can also go for CBT THERAPY to ventilate your negatives out. 9. Don't feel insecure, develop trust in god, thoZe who don't have anyone, that power is always inside. Divert in religious activities. Make friends, socialise, interact. Once again I'm telling, YOU ARE ONE OF YOUR KIND. 10. Past shouldn't hamper your present, try to make your future, the best place for your kids to live in.


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Hello sir, I really appreciate your efforts and immense love towards your daughter that made you quit smoking. The issues mentioned by you are: 1. Anxious ,heart beat pounding fast. 2. Perspiration,hands shaking. 3. Moods nd energy changes. 4 . irritations and sleep issues 5. Urge/ crave to take again. Sir, all the problems you mentioned as NICOTINE- WITHDRAWL symptoms, They will make you feel uncomfortable for some days and few week,later on it will be easy and you will achieve a feeling of 'win win' over you addiction. You are already doing great!!! My suggestions will help you to get out of it easily as follows: 1. Make a list of reason, why you quitting it, paste it in your room, office board and vallet. Read them, when you feel anxious and crave ,read it ,self talk and motivate yourself. 2. Try to give attention with whom you smoke,where,what factors effect you or some place, Make plan for alternatives,what to do at that time of stress or avoid that friend . 3. Tell you family members and friends that you are quitting, don't worry,let them accept and make your journey easier 4.in case of severe anxiety, take frequent deep breaths , take cool water or milk , drink Or Rush outside and start doing physical activity. 5.make support group: list of people, who support you.either you can sit with your daughter at uncomfortable hours and talk. 6. Feel no shame , in taking help of doctor and share your deaddiction decision,psychologist will help you to withdraw in a pre planned and relatively easy manner . 7. Ascorbic acid like sour fruits and vegetables are good supplements to avoid craving, You can also opt for tea,coffee if you feel so. 8. Some people also opt for Nicotex gum in initials available in market,you can also try on that, if not able to control much. 9. You can download apps in your phones,that helps to keep your record of progress as well as delay your urge. 10. Let me tell you activity,write on a paper,how much money you are saving by quitting it,you can also make that and get motivated. 11. If your smoking is associated with alcohol, being alone or some place of some habit, quit that too. 12.reward yourself : small one like buying some gadget, bigger ones like:outing with family. You know better what make you and people around you happy. 13. Meditation, exercise,hobby indulgement are also good measures for divertion. 14. Group therapy also work in addiction to help individual develop motivation by talking to the people who did it . Sir, you are going perfectly right,don't loose control,you are about to win. Your health will be the biggest gift to your daughter. Stay blessed!


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Hello, you are stressed dear, the way you are feeling about yourself can lead you towards depression. I can understand that the love( physical) was strong enough between you both, but now it's emotionally hurting you back. First of all, In your life if any relation start giving you pain or torture, the solution is always to get out. He's not right one for you if he do any act forcefully. Moreover after tracing the history, he doesn't deserve your single tear. My set of advices for you will be : 1. Go and seek counselling help They will help you to overcome the emotional weakness. 2. Cognitive behaviour therapy to evacuate the negativity and suicidal tendencies coming in your mind. 3. He lost you, his loss. You gave 100% , don't feel guilty. This incidence will make you strong for future. 4. Divert yourself positively, meditation, yoga will help. 5. Life is not about failure, it's about how quickly you overcome it. Keep on moving . I know, you will do it , You are strong. Keep loving yourself.


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Hello dear, your wife needs help, may be there's someone in her that she was not able to find answer for. Thts why she has crying spells. She needs ventilation. May be there are some thoughts which are troubling her , hence, affecting her mood and behaviour. Changing her place wouldn't help. My advice for you is to seek professional counselling help. Right person with right skills would help her. Moreover, in personal side, give her more time, care , compassion, appreciation and change in lifestyle will be add on in recovery.


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Hello dear, Problems in life come and go , the person needs to be strong to handle them. Your wife left you as she has fallen in love with someone you know is the present you are suffering from neither your future will not be the same nor was your past. She left you , but try to remember those beautiful moments of your marriage. The days she loved you, hugged you, all those memories are precious. Same will be your future, don't stress , the new life will definitely be full of beautiful moments and love , please do give yourself try. You became self obsessed with the negativity. My advise for you is: 1. Please consult counselor , keep your views and problems to her, she/he will enforce hope in you 2. CBT will be helpful so evacuate the negativity in you 3. After some sessions, follow your parents advice, do happily go for next chance to your life. May be she was the one who was waiting for you since long, the previous lady was not right 4. I can purely understand ,you got hurt, you had feeling attached to your wife. But you can't live with negativity always, not very lady is same. Seek help.


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No, you shouldn't ! If one person in the house you feel doesn't like you, it never says to leave home, see the other two members ( your son and grandchild) need you. You are the biggest support to them, Running away is never the solution, solving the problem while being there is the biggest victory. I sympathize as your wife is not with you in the remaining journey of life but, accept the reality nobody can love you as she did And you not not alone, go out make friends, try to be friends of people like you, may be they are looking for your friendship. My advices would be: 1. Try to indulge yourself in spirituality, enchanting hymns, connectivity, me -time is necessary. Its the only power that can give you satisfaction 2. Change bit of your lifestyle, opt for morning walk, yoga sessions, make friends there. 3. As you are retired, you can join any n.g.o or some cultural meetings or groups.your knowledge will be great help to the youngsters. 4. Seek help from counselor , they can motivate you. 5. Spend more time with your grandchild, his love will give you energy. Don't loose help, you are important.


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Boy, don't go disheartened. You are doing great. I can see that you are putting efforts, but worried for future results and grades. The more you think about future, you will become anxious and the stress will automatically increase pressure and decrease performance. You will again feel hopeless and this vicious circle continues. Son, if you keep on thinking the way you are now, so much negativity and suicidal tendencies will take you in depression. Secondly, your parents must be comparing you,just to motivate you, take it positively, they are not meant to discourage you anyhow. They live you more than any of your cousin. And yes, your confidence is a massive reply to your friends who bully you. You need to work on it. Rest all, you are doing great. YOu are NOT AT ALL A FAILURE. My advices for you are as follows: 1. Seek professional help, EDUCATIONAL COUNSELLING will help you regain the hope in you. 2. Concentration exercises and session will help you memorize the learned matter. 3. Meditation and living in present habits will enhance your horizons. 4. Moreover, share your problem , with your parents, if not father but at least your mother , she will be your great support. 5. Parental counselling , so that they can help you to pass this crest of negativity. Lastly, I want to tell you , each nd everyone go through this phase in life be it Narender Modi or Albert Einstein.The winner is only one who keeps on moving. All the best!!!


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Sir, Don't loose hope. Your son don't need asylum , He needs proper care. So as the problems mentioned by you presently are: 1. Addiction to smoking, alcohol 2. language abuse 3. Destructive behaviour, hitting 4. Lost interest in studies 5. Disobeying and hyperactivity 6. After medical diagnosis, the situations worsened with affect disturbances. Before telling you, that how could you manage him, let me tell you about encephalitis Its a inflammation in the brain, it may be viral, fungal or bacterial infection, it puts the direct impact on the memory functioning and bring high affect on behaviour symptoms. These all problems are may be the consequences of encephalitis but addiction is self -choosen. My advices for you as follows: 1. Follow your medical treatment strictly including antibiotics. 2. Book appointment with psychiatrist and get him assessed. May be he will put him on psychotics. 3. Encourage him to withdraw addiction, with help of group therapy or counselling. 4. Behaviour and occupational therapy are highly recommended. But, I can understand you are the only bread earner and therapies will be for long duration nd costly You can search for special child clinics , and consult n.g.o for his treatment. 5.Turn his activity towards productivity, engage him in occupation, the physical works. 6. Supervise him, keep the sharp out of his reach , he can injure himself ( in extremes). Little efforts more, things will turn down in narrow range. I hope for his recovery!!


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Hello lady, first of all congratulations for your Marriage! Secondly, Don't be stressed , your husband love You, so do you. I can understand the scenario over your place, you don't need to divorce him rather apologize for your behaviour. As the problem stated by you is: 1. Not feeling sexually satisfied as expected. 2. The circle of frustration- Anger- Fights continuing. 3. Stressed as alone you are happy even. Darling, I can understand your part as lady, satisfaction is important but respect and love is more important in relationship. There are ladies who wait long as their husbands are on border serving country. Do they frustrate and plans to leave ? Dear, problem is not you, desire is normal, problem is the expectation which he himself raised. (As he only fantasized you by erotic words) So, here are my some solutions for you : 1. Do meditate, it will help you to control your frustration and anget.will deviate you to positive energy around. 2. Join job, keep yourself working, as more you will alone, you will miss everything. 3. Go apologize to your husband. Marriages are bonds for life, its not easy to get good husband like him. 4. See, those words are spoken by him only.He can say all that you need, but those words need adrenaline rush and fantasy. May be responsibilty after marriage made him feel low on that regard. Explain him what you want but it's not only one . 4. Go for some cosy, seducing message at night, to make him feel relax then, may be things will process in expected way. 5. You can also plan for baby( that will give you answer to all your solutions), you both will be in more stronger bond then. 6. Psychological counseling, couple therapy will be of more help . 7. Remember, love and respect is important , seX is secondary. All the best!!! May you both live thousand year of togetherness.


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Lady, your daughter's teacher is absolutely right. We all say, bad things come and go, they are the part of life but staying strong again is the biggest task , you need courage to do it. Your daughter need someone to enforce courage in appropriate manner. As you mentioned, that she's being molested, this either gave her the negative sign about her sexuality or she was not able to cope with the happening. 2. Staying aloof is the subjective sign that she things negative and leading to depression. 3.Don't want to take food properly and lost focus is the combined symptoms leading to depression. My advice for you as follows: 1. Appreciation: appreciate her constantly that how she fought up against the bad person.everyone don't have courage, you are a brave girl.mom is proud on you. 3. Modelling: tell her the folklores, stories, about the ladies who fought back and succeeded. How they are keeping themselves happy overcoming it.. 3. Evaluate and ventilate: take her to her favorite peaceful place either temple or park, and try that she evacuate what exactly she feels. Don't worry if she cry, let her evacuate. 3. Plan an outing: You all can plan an outing with family, try to take her to childy places like amusement parks , picnics , to give her the change. 4.meditation and yoga will help to divert her. 5. Make her the food she like, even u can tell her nanny to come and cook for her( everyone loves grandparent's hand food) 6. If that person ( gatekeeper) still work there or in ur reach, fight to give him punishment . 7. Take her to the counselor ,they will be ultimate help. I can understand, your part as mother, do little efforts, your beautiful daughter will be back with smile.


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Hello lady !! As the symptoms mentioned by you illustrating that you might be suffering from psychosis. 1. Mood swings , irritation and loss of interest in activities, insomnia pointing towards depression 2. Hearing voice of anklet is sign of auditory hallucination. 3. Feeling that someone is beside me is visual hallucination. 4. Medical conditions like oligomenorrhea is due to the phobia you feel. 5. Feeling of being dirty is related to obsessions and compulsion of doing repetitive task like hand washing and bathing frequently for longer duration. These all signs towards Psychosis. My suggestions for you would be: 1. Seek psychiatric help, book your appointment with doctor and get yourself assessed. Switch to Antipsychotics medications if preblockedions says. 2. Share the things with your family and husband , tell them that it's a problem and u need treatment, better take them with you at doctor . 3. Arrange a helping hand at home as your kids are young, as you will be on medicines it will be a relief on physical tasks. 4. Maintain a schedule to go for morning and evening walk, with family member to make you feel emotionally intact and protective. 5. You can also join some yoga classes and meditation therapies, naturopathy so, that you get your brain deviating from disturbing thoughts. 6. Psychological treatment including CBT AND CDT therapies will help you. Stay strong, you will be fine soon.


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Hello lady!! I appreciate your dedication towards making and managing house . A salute to the homemaker lady. The problems mentioned by you are clearly defining the need for seeking help from health professional as: 1. Anxious feeling especially when alone. 2. Thoughts of death and detachment . 3. Fear of husband's late coming or mishappening. 4. Getting disturbed when you didn't get response from husband on cal. 5.crying spells, restlessness, irritation, numbness. All these problems generally signals that you are suffering from generalised Anxiety Disorder : State of anxiety . As soon as anxiety increase, the situation of panicky comes up and you want someone around you. Importantly, don't force your husband to start his business at home, you will become more dependent on him . You need to be independent , your thoughts are making you weak. Don't worry, the problem is completely curable and my suggestion for you would be: 1. Change lifestyle: I now it will be bit difficult in starting, but try to indulge yourself in morning walk, yoga sessions. B.Try to set temple schedule, divert yourSelf to religious satisfaction. C. You can start spending time with your daughters more related to their shopping, clothes, accessories etc. Try to be their helping hand at school or college works. C. Join meditation or naturopathy sessions. To make you feel free from inside. The aim of life style modification is just to divert your thoughts in a productive pattern. 2. Set a proper cal timings. Give yourself alarm in a day il, only cal my husband thrice today. Not more than that, be strict. Slowly slowly reduce the frequency. 3. Book appointment with your psychiatrist, and get assessed. He might will put you on medicines. Please take them on time. You will be relieved. 4. Try to socialize yourself, go to kitties, park get together to get yourSelf diverted to the problems of others. ( The more you will stay at home alone, the more you will be anxious) 5. Seek psychologist help, CDT THERAPY And CBT THERAPY are great help to recover from anxiety .. these are short therapies with sure results. 6. You can also do some relaxation deep breathing exercises at home to soothe yourself at crying situations. I hope my advices would be helpful to you, please don't worry, nobody is going to leave you, you are their life . And nothing will happen to anyone as long as you are there to take care of them. All the best!!!!


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Hello sir! Can understand the situations out there. Problems to the kids directly effects the parents. According to the previous encounter as you mentioned that your child fainted 15 days back after pertaining the complaints of pain abdomen. But medical records were normal after diagnosing done by paediatrician. As a psychologist, these symptoms are signaling towards conversion disorder probably HYSTERIA. ( Effect disorder where person starts putting his mental problems by turning into physical problems ) like in this case fainting. As the detailed present problems mentioned by you are: 1. Pain in abdomen leading to Fainting 2. Thoughts affected like talking of ghosts 3. Problems like dizziness, tired, lethargic 4.not able to recognize family members 5. Not having proper food. 6. Fear that ghost will kill him. Fear, phobia, loss of consciousness need to be assessed as psychotic symptoms are there. My devices for you would be: 1.Take him to the psychiatrist, or you can cal the doctor at home and get your child assessed. 2. Make the home environment soothing, sharps should be kept away. 3. Sit comfortably with the kid, and ask him if anything bothering him inside. Is there any particular demand he put ? 4. Visit to the child counselor and let her assess for behavioural symptoms. 5. Try to catch up with school counselor or teacher , is there any incident or problem happened in school last days ? 6. Give him the small frequent diet, like finger foods or food of his choice. Maintain nutritional balance. 7. Try to take him out for a movie or put his favorite movie or game at tv and try to notice the change in behaviour. 8. Try to convert his attention toward the power of god to overcome his fear. 9. Sometimes strict and confident parenting and not paying much attention to the symptoms will give answers automatically. 10. Meditation nd yoga will be the add-on in improvement Please get him assessed . I know he will be better soon. All the best !!!


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Hello boy!! As you stated that you already went to the psychiatrist and they diagnosed you with OCD , BUT you didn't took any psychological counselling or therapy. Moreover, you are preparing for competitive exams and concentration seems to be the major issue and your thoughts are obsessional regarding: 1.washing hands every hour. 2.checking locks in pattern of 7. 3.pattern for walk. 4. Concentration. My effective tips for you would be : 1. First of all, let your family know about your problem , sit with them and discuss. 2. Seek psychiatric help, he might prescribe some medicines to you, take them on time. 3. Get your obsession assessed by y- bocs testing scale to know how much deep grooted the problem is. 4. Book psychological concentration session,they will teach you some techniques and exercises to enhance concentration skills. 5. CBT THERAPY will work wonders for you. Book session with psychologist and pursue them. 6. Don't delay the treatment, you need it. 7. Start reducing your compulsions , as you follow pattern of 7. Try to wash hands 7 times a day. 8. Study less but effective. Don't burdensome 9. Divertions like meditation and yoga will be effective simultaneously. Go and get treatment , things will be fine soon.


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Hello lady!!! You are really brave who's the managing the parenting despite of such massive ups and downs. Individually, you are a victim of domestic Violence. I know it is difficult to raise the issues and demanding divorce as things will create social pressures but if the reason is only your kid then,pls don't. The kid who's parents are living together yet seeing so much disturbance and violence, how can the kid will be mentally stable and confident. By staying in this relationship, if you are giving him the name of father , yet you are giving her such traumatic childhood and hatred towards this attitude of her father, as a result may be she/he will never gain trust in relationship in his/ her future. As the problems you mentioned are as follows: 1. Abusive and violent behaviour at home. 2.physical pain and mental trauma. 3 fear of getting divorce related to future of kids. 4.getting tortured by husband's bad words. Dear, moving on is not that difficult,bravery without intelligent decision is zero. My piece of advice would be : 1. Discuss the same with your in laws and maternal family.. follow what they say either you can tell your in laws to stay with you. 2. Don't bear the pain! File divorce petition and domestic violence case.. Don't FEAR,go for it. 3. If you love him and that s y not leaving him, take him t0o the psychologist near by. Assess his behaviour and sessions are required to overcome his anger and action duration. 4. Explain the same to your kids and ask for their advice, they know you better. See what they say "" they want to be with father or move"". Explain them the procedure and make them strong . 5. Try to move out by going for some meditation and individual psychotherapy . 6. If you want to save relationship, you can also switch for couple therapy. Always remember love yourself first,if you yourself don't,nobody will.. All the best!!


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Hello dear!!! Dont be demotivated , that was just your first interview, Try on again, you will be best. I can understand that you faced problem out there but I'm happy ,that you want to work on it. Your efforts only shows you are not zero! "Gir Kar uthne wale ko hi hero kehte h " Issues facing 1. Communication issues 2. Feeling nervous and shaky 3.loosing confidence 4. Feeling motivated to appear for interview. Causes: As you mentioned that you were not so much friendly with in your childhood and had selected relatives to talk. Although you talk in comfort zone, but never interacted to new people outside. Keeping yourself in a network made you feel comfortable but now going and answering people in authority making you feel anxious. Trust me, a single job interview is not the end of world. Tingling sensation, sweating and not able to say anything are symptoms of Social Anxiety. My tips for you are as follows: 1. For fighting anxiety and be confident in interview,first do practice Start with your trusted friend or sibling, tell them to be an interviewer and ask questions , Try to improve and be natural. 2. Try to go to the venue before time,prepare yourself according to the surroundings , talk to the employees and reception people or co applicants there and then , things will be better. 3. Stay calm: don't worry, this is just an interview,don't judge yourself on this pattern, feel normal as your teacher is asking you a question. 4. Don't look for negative signals: sometimes even they are signalling you that you are saying right answer but you took it wrong, don't look for their face expression, stay collected in present If you feel nervous, pause for a second and again start with slow tone. 5. Dont think negative, interviewers are not there to judge you, they are there to judge your abilities. Be strong on your abilities and qualifications. 6. Its usual: pls Understand, every second person feel this,it's not unusual. Work on it,practice, you will be better. 7. Take proper sleep a night before interview,don't stress yourself much, practice meditation in morning,avoid caffeine drinks, dress up well, take blessing from family before leaving. Even you can accompany any friend of yours to job interview initially. 8. You can Google out some questions according to your job field,write answers for them on paper and practice it Mirror talk is the best option. 9. For confidence building and fighting social anxiety: A. Exposure: go out,make new friends,talk to them. Start with social media and then jump to meetings. B . Appraise: if you made conversation nd getting better reply , reward yourself. C. Don't avoid:go out,escaping will increase problem, Make friend.. Don't worry what people around you think,just try to be yourself. D don't fear but fight, it's basically a hormone rush,nothing's is gonna hurt you, fight you will be better. E. Take help from therapist, if problem increasing , CBT THERAPY WILL help you to go better with this issue. F. Go for new hobby,making friend there and expanding your skills are important Personality development and communication improvement courses are recommended. (As you feel problem in communication) Lastly,practice motivation, self motivate by saying: 'I prepared well,I can do, will try to give my best shot,they might select me" Work on,you will get your best job. Trust on God and try to improve your shortcomings.


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Hello sir! We are so happy to know the beautiful bond you and your mother had. Your mother was really brave who decided to be in the relationship of marriage and diversify herself in your parenting. I can understand the pain you went after losing the biggest support of your life. As the problems you are feeling are : 1. Feeling of loneliness and depression by loss of mother 2 . History of traumatic childhood ( father- mother tortures) 3. Feeling of she's here with you which ultimately gave you feeling that she's in you 4. No one is understanding the way you feel these days. Dear, you have developed the dissociation in your personality, I know you were feeling happy by wearing clothes of your mom because you feel she's with you but physical preoccupation may be disturbed you. Your life history may be disturbed you this way that you developed split- personality . My advices for you is: 1. Book your appointment for the psychiatrist, he might suggest some Medicines, follow the regimen. 2. Watch you tube videos / documentary illustrating the science behind death and spirits 3. Book appointment with psychologist, they will help to evacuate thoughts and feelings. 4. Individual Therapies will help you to accept the reality. 5. Try to take time for park , yoga and walks. 6. Meditation will work wonders. 7. Accept the reality of death and life , you can read holy books like bhagvat geeta and Ramayana. Take right help!!! Things will go better.


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Hello sir, Blessings to your kids. I can understand the lever of dual sexuality you are swinging in. As we all know ,all problems are still can be discussed but sexual problems are rarely discussed. Taboos are up. The problem you were facing for now is: Issues about your sexuality, as u said YOU feel for both boys and girls. 1.You even mentioned, that you tried to control thoughts but not able to compressed. 2 You are confused about sexuality.. straight or gay. 3. Fear of expressing to family and the future perspective. 4. Thoughts affecting normalcy. First of all, be calm. Don't worry much, as an individual you have right to know about your sexuality and people needs to understand the same but firstly be sure about yourself. I would have appreciated, if we're mentioned since how long these thoughts were affecting you. My advice for you would be : 1. Book your session with the psychotherapist and get yourself assessed. 2. Don't feel shy, go for individual sexual counselling sessions. 4. Try to verbalize your problem to the trustworthy person in family and be relaxed. 5. Try to rule out, what made you feel that you are guy. Try to avoid that factor.. If it's a person,try to avoid him for sometime.. 6. Keep yourself physically active by walk, meditation etc. 7. Don't think much about sexuality, this will affect your thought process too. 8. I also prefer you to visit sexologist and follow what he prescribe. Seek help!! It will give you solution.


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Hello Francis!! I welcome the young guest in the heart of our country,Delhi. Get assured,I will help you my best dear. Issues you are facing are: 1.harassment in public areas like metro,bus stand, college campus etc. 2. FEAR while going outside leading to anxiety. 3. Felt bad by Being called overtly . 4.history of getting beaten up by local gangs when complained. 5.Not comfortable with other people because of their behaviour towards you Dear Francis, India has people from various religion, caste, creed etc. minorities always need to suffer bit. It's only you but may be Muslims in India go through same problem. Let me help you by remembering an incident from history. Sir, Nelson Mandela from your country and Mahayana gandhiji from our country fought for racism. You and We,all are same. We are humans connected by love. The problem for social anxiety you are feeling is genuine as you developed the fear of mixing the people around. So let me help you to get out,suggestions are : 1. Don't hesitate,living with your friends only is just escape not the win. Go out with them,may be first 5 stranger might not be good,6th will surely be. 2. J.p duminy is the living example for the same, our respect for such all-rounder cricketer. Skills are what is important, you are doing great ,don't worry what people around you think . 3. Try to socialise , don't hide, start with online media, like facebook , Twitter. 4. As you mentioned,you came India on scholarship,you seems intelligent , work hard lad. It's important. 5. For anxiety,you can seek a friendly help from counsellors and go for cognitive therapy. Learn to love yourself in life first. 6. Self meditation,music and dance exercise in a day make you feel energetic in routine. 7. Share your feelings with new friend there,may be someelse else in your college campus needs a friend like you. 8. In public traveling,you can use headset and music stations to stay way from negativity. 9. Remember in life, you don't need certificate from all that they all like you,be an example . Work Hard and enjoy the life 10. You can also join gym and aerobics for working on appearance if you really want to work on yourself. Follow the suggestions,you will achieve heights.


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Hello Sir!! I can empathatize with you that how weak,tensed and disturbed you feel, when the person loves you the most is in problem. As the problem mentioned by you are: 1. Increasing forgetfulness like kept things 2. Can't remember days,time, year. 3.loosing intactness with activity of daily living like going office, bathing and cooking chores. 4. Lost maintaining self care and hygiene. Probable causes will be: 1. As a psychologist,I want to divert your thoughts tgat this can't solely be diagnosed alzeihmers and amnesia.. 3. It can be Mild cognitive impairment which has the Causes : A.. some medications use can also result in loss of cognition sometimes. B. vitamin B12 deficiency in body can also be the reason. C. brain disorder and sudden injury. D. Emotional disturbance like stress and anxiety . In your case it may be no baby or being alone resulting in the same. Sometimes partner don't share what she feels alone. E. Western lifestyle like alcoholism . F. Hormonal disbalance due to age factors. My suggestions for you are as follows: 1.As you stated the history of going to the market, and forget her way. And I know your insecurity of sending her out became genuine but I suggest you to send her out with assistance like some maid or nurse. 2. Visit the doctor and rule out the diagnose of early alzeihmers by blood test and MRI and CT SCAN brain. 3. You can invite her mother or yours or any close family member to home, taking assistance and blessings of elders may solve problem. 4. Allow communication: sit with her either involve in intimate talks and then ask her if something is hurting her. 5. If remaining alone making her weak, plan for it or visit for gynae assistance. 6. Indulge her in physical workout like yoga and meditation and naturopathy treatment. 7. If vitamin deficiency rule out,give nutritional Diet, plan diet with nutritionist or start supplements 8. To combact forgetfullness: make things to do list in a day. So that she remembers basic one. 9. Check if she has started any new drug and it might be it's side effect. 10.Use Big calender and dates notice so that dates will be remembered. 11. Use note charts and memory aids. 12.Direction charts will be helpful at home . 13. Take help from psychiatrist,psychologist and neurologist accordingly. In the last , I suggest you to spend more time with your wife, And seek right help.


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Hello sir! Loved to know that you have support and blessings tof such great and proud brother but Sometimes, sudden changes in nature left us disturbed when the reasons are not known properly. As the issues mentioned by you 1. Previously a happy and jolly person but suddenly excessive gush of grandiosity. 2. Self talk and aggressive 3. Loss of sleep. 4. Increased appetite and Energy. 5.feeling of being powerful I.e. Exhaltation. 6.laughing loudly by self 7.not going to office Probable causes: As the symptoms mentioned by you are stating that he's turning maniac ( state of excessive energy in terms being Happy, laughing, 'me' Feeling. 2. Narcisstic personality symptoms extravagant. 3 self talk and laugh can be related to hallucination and grandiose delusion too. My suggestions would be : 1. As you are observing the changes since few months, putting him on medicines is a better option.pls visit to psychiatrist , antipsychotics drugs will improve condition. 2. Involve family members , may be hospitalization is necessary doctor will assess for same. 3. Put him on more mental related activities like account section work,maths problems with kids as mentally tired will ease sleeping pattern. 4. Offer small and frequent meals as he's demanding more. Popcorn, bhuna bhuna and biscuits are better snack. 5. For sound sleep, give warm milk and dim lights will be done. 6. Psychological assessment for narcisstic personality is recommended. 7. Behaviour modification and group therapy along with counselling will be beneficial. 8. Encourage him to spend time in Hymns enchanting and meditation . 9. Divert his mins towards societal works as his leadership quality may help the people around. 10. Encourage him to spend time with kids and play with them. His energy will increase bonding with kids which may be due to his business schedule he might not able to give. Seek right help!!He will be better soon. 'The happiest brother of yours'.


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Hello brave Lady!! sad to know the demise of your parents. May their holy soul rest in peace. Ups and downs are part of life,brave is who understand that life is just the circle of life and death. Everyone came here to play their innings, be proud that your parents played it well. Current issues are: 1. Grief of parents 2. Separation from loved ones. 3. Feeling of being alone and upset sometimes. 4. Sudden habit of stammering and neck jerking Probable causes will be the feeling of insecurity,sadness and loneliness leading to depression and cognitive disturbance like stammering ( speech abnormality) 2. Mannerism like neck rigidity and shaking of neck which you can't Notice even, coming gradually. 3. Depression usually comes with anxiety, social anxiety would be the root cause. My suggestions for you as follows: 1. Yes, your doctor adviced you appropriately for psychological counselling,visit the one and describe what you are feeling on. 2. Understand, life is just going with flow,you just feeling insecure. We all came alone and will go with same. Relations are there to bring happiness ,God is the ultimate power and strength. Try to spend some time in God's serenity,that will be great help. 3.You are probably surrounded by negativity, CBT THERAPY and individual psychotherapy are recommended. 4. Try to divert your mind to hobbies classes like art and craft,aerobics and dance class. 5. Meditation , osho classes are best to hold your personality in positivity. 6. Set your schedule for morning walk ,yoga,spend some time in a day with friends like kitty party,friends get together. 7. Personal advice: Do look for a companion in life,a love and support in your life, you need someone to be around. Either tell your brother to look for a groom. 8. Even if your brother separated you,do cal him ,visit him and seek love from their children ( bua love) 9. For speech issues,you can talk to speech therapist and work on it . 10. Build strong personality :don't worry what comes and go,be happy on your existence and live your journey of life happily.


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Hello sir! I can understand it sounds bit awkward to see your friend behaving sexually different for which he has no regrets for. Issues are: 1.tendency to expose genitalia in public oftenly. 2. Lost of conflicts between their relationship with girlfriend 3. Behaving for pleasure and excitement . Before giving you some suggestions. Let me help you to understand the problem he's going through. Dear, this problem is exhibitionism which comes under sexual paraphalia. This is more prominent in males, having tendency to expose genitals in public and strangers. As u mentioned too,these clients doesn't take help themselves because they find pleasure in it, they only seek help when they have problem in sexual life with partners. Probable causes: 1. Hormonal excitement like testestrone which urges to seek pleasure by exposing 2. Victim of emotional abuse in childhood like separation from mother or family members. My suggestions for your friend would be 1. Firstly, talk to your friend and try to talk over him related to his childhood insecurities and fear 2. Involve his girlfriend, let her understand the problem and visit sexologist to know the insight of problem as she can only insists for the same. 3. As he himself don't want to go to the doctor, an online voice chat can be encouraged. 4. Medicines and hormonal therapy works in combating the hormonal Disturbance. 5. Therapies like Reality THERAPY,cognitive behavioural therapy, aversion therapy can bring result. 6. Sometimes the person feels guilty inside, but can't leave the learning so empathy training can be given. 7. Sexual counselling, couple counselling are recommended. 8. 12-step sexual deaddiction programme along with group therapy can be given for the same. You are doing big help to your friend. Once he will be fine,he will be thankful to you. Keep doing great .


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Hello dear, I felt so happy to hear that you are doing efforts for your family, you are the best son and brother anyone can get. You are a good example to the society. I can empathise that In these responsibilities load,you are not able to give time to yourself . But, don't feel negative that you can never get your own family (wife and kids), the family you are caring is your family too. The problem is ,you are not giving time to yourself, Nobody ever is going give you time in life saying go and enjoy, you yourself have to take it out. Problems facing : 1. Burdened under responsibility 2. Feeling lonely and frustrated. 3. No friends and love support basically personal life and time. 4. Reduced hope for having good personal future. I can say ,you are tired of working.you need to take some Me time out. I know it's important, to earn bread and butter but , dying inside, will not let you enjoy food . My suggestions for you as follows. 1. Patience: as your sister is studying, don't loose hope ,once she will start earning, she will be an supporting hand to you. 2. Plan a trip:plan a small trip to some peaceful area like temples or lakes or hill station and take break. Either you can plan to visit your relatives and school friend. Spend time , get refreshed and start new. 3. Take some Me time: See what your hobbies, do it . If you feel you can't do it daily: do it once a fortnight A.take half the day of leave for yourself, go meet your old friend, sit with them, interact . B. Don't work even on paid holidays, to have more money, enjoy it's for you, relax. Go for oil message at home from your sister hand , enjoy mumma' s hand food, relive moments with father. C. Start enjoying morning walk, spending time with nature give pleasure and peace to soul. D. Go with flow,discuss with family your need for life partner,they will understand it, moreover, she will be add on support to you in your journey of life. E. Put your mental health on priority: if you feel frustrated, go sleep for some time,take proper naps and food. F. Ask for help from your family members in small chores of home,there's no harm in it. G try to say No,if you feel Burdened, do lil but do whole heartedly. 3. Meditate: you can practice it early morning and as well as in office hours to maintain internal peace and happiness. Che k on hold with breathing and enjoy blissfullness. 4. Activate your social media profiles, chit chat , make friends , interact. 5. Set goals of life: don't move in the race of earning money, set goals and meet them patiently. 6. Take help from counsellor , in case you feel negative and stressed. You are important to your family but yourself first. They are dependent on you is not problem but a proud for you.


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Hello lady! I appreciate your efforts towards leaving the alcohol because continuation at such early age will effect your health badly . Your determinations needs to be applauded. Issues mentioned: 1. Sleeping difficulty. 2. Anxious state 3. Palpitations and shortness of breath 4. Sweating palms. 5. Loss of concentration. Dear,as you already telling that you are pursuing masters ,difficulty to concentrate might be putting effect on your studies. Probable causes: Alcohol intake usually results in decency and once you opt for leaving it,withdrawal symptoms come like anxiety and insomnia. You are going through the same commonly known as Delirium tremens. These withdrawal sometimes are so strong that they cause to lapse again but I m sure you will follow my advices and work hard to get rid of this habit completely: Diagnosis: Get yourself assessed, for anxiety scale online or by visiting psychologist. My suggestions for you are: 1. Make a support group: Keep a list of people who know that you are in the journey of leaving alcohol,call them and talk when you feel anxious. 2. Use time: boredom and being alone brings negative thought and increase tendency of brain to think more,you can join some gym,yoga nd moreover,do skipping ropes and cycling to maintain calmness in body. 3. Some drugs are available to combact insomnia and anxiety which usually doctor prescribe in extremes like benzodiapenes but overcoming their addiction is again a deal. 4. For sleep issues: A. Avoid naps in a day, keep yourself moving the whole day. B. Avoid stimulants,Caffeine brewers are big no-no. C . When you go the bed try to switch for relaxational videos and music,easily available on YouTube and if still there's problem you can try some exercise at night. D. Ethnic room with dark lights and hot milk , hot bath before going to bed can be tried. E. Don't use electronic gadgets on bed for longer time. F. Some vitamin supplements also work for betterment,prescribed by doctor. 5. Set routine: for sleep and good diet, healthy meals and lots of fruits , vegetables and lots of water. 6. Whenever you feel anxious,don't go for rest ,go out work,exercise,talk to support groups and dance by playing songs. 7. If you are extrovert, try to go for parties ( not alcoholic one) , spend time with your parents and meeting relatives If introvert,put on your favourite movie,favourite book or subject spend time. Understand,initially may be concentration is a problem,taking break after very 15 - 20 mins is ohkay. You are doing great. 8. Aroma therapy,spa, naturopathy treatment will be helpful too,I even advice you to do gardening,connect with nature. 9. Self talk:don't repress but encourage yourself like, It's just the phase,it will go I'm doing great I will able to do it perfectly. This is not going to harm me. 10. For motivation,you can also keep your diary of progress,look at that early in morning and night,feel inspired . 11. Go for Morning deep breathing exercises like parnayam. Just understand the crisp , This is just the phase of withdrawal and the symptoms,these only come when you work hard. Go on,don't stop my brave girl.


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I can understand you,don't be depressed , with the right guidance you will able to fight on with your habit of day dreaming to a good level. Issues you are facing now: 1. Day dreaming about project given to you and visualizing the same. 2. Due to being involved,not able to complete work on time leading to critism and being hurt. 3. Feeling hopeless and depressed as no-one is understand what is the reason for the same . Dear, according to psychology, day dreaming is the defence mechanism, people do it to escape from painful and difficult situation into the world of their visualization, where they feel good. Although , it's not bad but when it's start hampering your schedule, it needs to be monitored. My suggestions for you would be as follows: The purpose is to use day dream reduction technique, stay focused and engage in activities attentively 1. Understand why you do it: Do you do to escape problem, to plan things,to feel good or pass time? Access the pattern first. 2. Buy a notebook or diary, make a list how many times a day you day dream like : 21. Nov; 5 times for 30 mins approx. 22 Nov: 6 times Try to reduce the times first and then frequency. Possibly you can set an alarm for very 1 hour in office to distract you and drink water. If someone ask, you can say it's my water intake reminder . Apps are available for the same. Purpose is to enhance awareness. 3. On the first page of diary,write the consequence if you day dream,so whenever you open it , you will able to see the warning, the habit will leave you soon. 4. Plan less: have a schedule and stick to it completely,try to take physical work more than intellectual. 5. Reward yourself: it's basically the learned process, positive reinforcement will definitely boost your power to fight, if someday,your frequency became less,reward yourself with shopping.( I hope you like it) 6. Get up: if in the office you feel drifting,get up go for the small walk in cafeteria, or do some stretching or saying hi!!! to a colleague. You can listen to songs and video.Try to be interactive. 8. As you mentioned,you use to imagine about project given to you by company, As soon as you get project,take paper and write down so that you know the time limit and your plans , how to do it . 9. Take proper sleep,you can write night dairy too. Taking healthy diet in a day. 10:Try to find new hobbies like joining gym,treckking, aerobics and make yourself engaged by busy schedule. 11. Consider help by psychologist and friend support system for reduction techniques. 12. One of the probable cause be work load may be, don't stress,as long as you work,project may come and go,work less but work perfectly. Lastly,I want to say you Dear,try to judge yourself , and don't take stress,if someone else (boss) say wrong , it will not decide your capabilities Work hard! Reach on heights .


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Hello ma'am! I really appreciate Your career goals and can understand how strong lady you are towards your future. Your academic achievement are meant to proud. I can understand the problem for now is that your parents want you to get married as age criteria but you don't want to be trapped in responsibilities You want to dedicate your life to work and career and for now, you are in feeling of helplessness for what to move for . Dear, you have lived alone (hostel) and was not able to taste the happiness of relationships in life thts why considering marriage as an obstacle to achieve heights. EVEN relationship history also making you weak to think in this direction. My advices for you is: 1. Go and meet your parents, tell them your perception about life. And the opportunities you are getting in job 2. If you feel that getting married will trap you in responsibility and you were not able to work to your potentials that s wrong, everybody understands the professional happiness in life moreover you will person to support and hold you. 3. Book appointment with psychologist, they will help to evacuate thoughts and feelings and guide you in the right direction. 4. Look around you will meet lots of couples, who are so much professional turned down. Shilpa kundra and Mr. Kundra is one of them. 5. Keep yourself physically active by walk, meditation etc. 6. Imagine your progress with your kid saying " my mumma is the best" 7. If you still feel, you don't want anyone aside, then be confident to fight your whole life and becoming happy with your achievements. I hope you will choose the right path.May you get more heights in life with the people around you who feel happy for you.Hello ma'am! I really appreciate Your career goals and can understand how strong lady you are towards your future. Your academic achievement are meant to proud. I can understand the problem for now is that your parents want you to get married as age criteria but you don't want to be trapped in responsibilities You want to dedicate your life to work and career and for now, you are in feeling of helplessness for what to move for . Dear, you have lived alone (hostel) and was not able to taste the happiness of relationships in life thts why considering marriage as an obstacle to achieve heights. EVEN relationship history also making you weak to think in this direction. My advices for you is: 1. Go and meet your parents, tell them your perception about life. And the opportunities you are getting in job 2. If you feel that getting married will trap you in responsibility and you were not able to work to your potentials that s wrong, everybody understands the professional happiness in life moreover you will person to support and hold you. 3. Book appointment with psychologist, they will help to evacuate thoughts and feelings and guide you in the right direction. 4. Look around you will meet lots of couples, who are so much professional turned down. Shilpa kundra and Mr. Kundra is one of them. 5. Keep yourself physically active by walk, meditation etc. 6. Imagine your progress with your kid saying " my mumma is the best" 7. If you still feel, you don't want anyone aside, then be confident to fight your whole life and becoming happy with your achievements. I hope you will choose the right path.May you get more heights in life with the people around you who feel happy for you.


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Hello sir! Congratulations, bundle of joy will enlighten your house soon. I can totally understand, the situation you are facing. Its not necessary that lady feels good in pregnancy days. Actually, during first and second trimester , the body of the lady went into anatomical and physiological changes which make her hormones disturbed resulting in changing needs and behaviour. Vomiting, smell sensation, touch, nagging are common behavioural changes. As problems mentioned by you are : 1. Crying and not eating food. 2.feeling low and dull 3. Becoming abusive and irritated when approached 4.history of commiting suicide once. By looking to symptoms, your concern and worry related to wife and kid is genuine. She sounds depressed, may be the problem is the new change she feels, as she's becoming mother little late of her age(33 yrs) making her feel so. My advice for you would be: 1. Sit with your wife, hold her hand, and tell her that please share whatever she feel. Confront her, that I'm not forcing her to continue pregnancy if she won't feel good about it. You ( wife) is more important to me than kid. If you keep in taking stress, the problem will increase for sure. It will indirect effect the health of baby. 2. Take her to the antenatal counselors, they are special help to deal with depression among pregnants. 3. Make her read good parents books or videoz to make her prepare mentally for new baby. 4. You can let her talk to any new mom in your near and dear who can talk to her in soothing way. 5. Make her eat nutritious food and iron and folic acid tablets on time, Whatever she will eat will directly nourish the growing life. 6. Morning light walk and evening walks with you will be beneficial. 7. Tell your mother to motivate her by telling her some stories of your childhood , either she can take her out on shopping related to child's need. 8.You both can plan a pregnancy photoshoot , plan which place, photographer, props, pattern , dresses you want to choose. Encourage her to take interest to make it best. 9.Share the problem to her gynaecologist, she will help her too. 10. Tell her to spend more time towards religious activities like arti or reading geeta or ramayan , child can listen and feel now. Positive vibes are necessary for. healthy baby. 11. Meditation, yoga , pre natal exercise seesions will make her socialize with the mothers of het age. 12. You can also seek help from counselors, psychologist in further need. Please remember, post partum psychosis is also common after delivery , get her assessed if you feel changes again. I wish for the healthy baby and happiest parents .


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Hello lady!!! First of All, heartiest congratulations on your marriage. As the problem you stated are pointing towards the fear of heights known as ACROPHOBIA , All the symptoms you mentioned like: A. FEAR of going in balcony. B. Feeling of palpitations and vertigo. C.feeling that you will tell down D. FEAR of looking outside window. These symptoms are clearly stating that you might be phobic. Dear, it's very much important to first accept the fears you have in your life especially to your trustworthy partner. My piece of advice for you would be : 1. Sit calmly with your husband and explain him the problem.. it's the common problem , He will understand it for sure. 2. Convince your husband, to shift the flat if possible to ground floor. 3. Seek psychologist help simultaneously to fight with your fear. Go for CBT and CDT therapy , they will evacuate your fear from height. 4. Join some meditation and yoga session to relieve your physical symptoms. 5. Get your blood pressure monitored also. 6. Behaviour modification techniques like systemic desensitization will help.. ask your counsellor for the same. Fight and cope with your fear with the help of right person and support of your loved one You will be fine soon.


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Hello boy!!! Dont be depressed! If a person don't have a parent, he has the God parent to support them. A person don't need a caste or surname for recognition, you just need a true soul to be identified. I can understand dear, it was difficult for anyone to live in orphanage,but I know there must be someone who loves and care for you the most in orphanage and you are not Alone dear, all the kids who are there in orphanage are your support. As the problem stated by you are: 1. Rejected in the relationship by the girl's father 2.difficulty coming in relationship with someone 3. Feeling of loneliness and disturbed thoughts 4. Insecurity in life. You are thinking negative, only because getting rejected and the reason behind it made you shattered . My piece of advice for you would be : 1. Don't be sad! You are doing great .. you are inspiration for many people in orphanage who might wants to be self dependent like you. 2. You are not alone, look out.im sure there must be people you will trace who love and respect you. 3. Solve your relationship: if the girl loves you, she will understand: caste and surname is no way to reject someone. You can even sit with her father, explain him your life struggle and can opt out a solution like: adopting their religion or caste And shifting at their house too.even still they don't agree, moving on is the better option. 4. Seek counselling help: Go to a counsellor nearby and discuss issues, they will ventilate your negative thoughts 5. Join some meditation nd yoga sessions to balance your inner self 6. Avoiding relationship yield no result: go out,make friends, everyone need a person like you to make friend. 7.Don't be lonely: your school, your kids need you. 8. Try to divert your mind towards the love of your school kids. 9 lastly, you can join as alumni in your own orphanage and spend time with the kids there so non of them feel lonely and insecure and lonely as you might feel sometime.be their best friend. Don't worry, you will be fine soon.


My Fit Brain

Hello Ma'am, congratulations for finding the love of your life. If age is the only criteria which comes as the hindrance for both of you to get married, then pls don't. If the other criteria like stability, compatibility, health conditions , economic conditions, love ,trust and respect among you is perfect than AGE IS JUST THE NUMBER. I can Understand, it's becoming difficult for you to convince your parents and relatives for the same but let them understand, that may be they will find a person in late 30s and mid 40s for You, but the love you both have, can't be traced back. Issues as you mentioned are >unable to make parents understand about marriage. >feeling bad about the negative and hurting comments by relatives. My advices for you are: 1. Know yourself: Dear, sit alone and ask yourself first, you love him? You feel you can't get Someone like him??? You will be happy with him? You will never regret after marrying him??? If your heart and mins says positive reply for majority of answers then you are on right path, Before convincing anyone in the world, you yourself need to be sure about your life. 2. Take some more time: Know except age what are the other factors your mother or sister raise for him,take time , try to find answer, know person more. Ultimately, in the end your family want to see you Happy, In the starting may be it's difficult, but later on , all what matter is more happier you. 3. Arrange a meeting with both families, only near ones,let them interact,find common topics to discuss and knowing views. 4. Society, you can't tell them individually how much you love him and his goodness, go on,make yourself deaf ear to their words The road not taken is always difficult to start on. 5. Dont stress, You be Happy about the beautiful future you both have, the confidence on your face will give answer to everyone's comment. 6. If you can Arrange, a small picnic or trip with your family and him, sometimes new locations makes connections. 7. You can communicate with your mother and sisters about the live examples around with age gaps,tell the positives about the elder groom like stability,understanding and all. Communicate about all the good habits and attitude about him. This you can also do by diving the sheet of paper into two phases, and tell your mother to write negative and positive about this marriage. Give them suitable explanations and convince them in polite manner that " I know he's right for me' ' he's the best one' I know you will do it!!! Blessed future ahead All the best !!


My Fit Brain

Hello dear! I can empathise with the bitter experience you had In your past, but I'm happy that you learned the life skills that made you positive. I can understand the social rejection you are facing and leading you towards feeling bad about past incidents but moving on,is very much important. Issues: 1. Social rejection 2. Feeling of suffocation nd stressed 3. Not able to overcome the negative memories. 4. Feeling of crying. 5. Want to start new life but can't. First of all,I appraise that you are working in N.G.O and studied socially despite of such ups and downs in life. And your this effort of working in N.G.O will definitely make you proud of yourself and people around you some day. My tips for you would be : 1 Understand, there are some things in life you can't change,so it's better to avoid them Society is a dynamic group , you can't give them explanation,neither they will Understand,avoiding is the best tool. I know it's difficult for now, but rather indulge yourself in productive work so that your respect starts to gain. 2. Recognize the memory and formulate positive one: A. Take a piece of paper and write down all the memories that life gave you happy. Keep the paper in your vallet, see that whenever people say you bad. 3. Try to live in present:try to do meditation nd yoga,rejuvinate the inner self ,practice mindfulness by repeating positive statement " I have to do better in life's 4. Consider that the time you spent in N.G.o made you mature, powerful about living the life . It made you a positive and a independent you. 5. Keep building happy memories: go out on trip,join new hobby , paint draw learn,dance , jump, make yourself as happy as you can. 6. Try to keep yourself busy with the works in N.G.O , people round there. You can also start writing blog,if you feel so,or writing diary.. People on social media,gets inspired to know the stories of people who overcome the downs In life. 7. Keep patience and believe in god: time is the best wound healer and God has the ultimate power of giving strength. Spend time with the energy 8. Seek help; get yourself open to your friend,relative , share what you are going through. Or you can opt for professional help by talking to counsellor and opting for therapies like CBT THERAPY TO make you strong. 9. You can shift your town or workplace if can be possible but victory is only achieved when you change your image living the same situation. 10. Accept what happened was a mere nightmare,I have to be what I'm. Don't go stress or cry. Things will be fine soon.


My Fit Brain

Hello man !! I really appreciate your open - mindedness that despite of being atheist you still try to be present at family rituals and attend temple too.

Its not always necessary to have a tag on you of some guru or religion.

As you seen many of them as mere brainwashers (ram rahim case).

Rituals and cultures are man made, and just ways to take you to the ultimate power 'truth'.

As you said, you had lots of cold debates with your family and society over it, thts obvious as the things that people( don't feel normal) , you will have to fight for them.

But maintain this cold war of thoughts firm and be happy..

So some of my suggestion would be :

1. Don't stress, don't feel bad, be true and honest with good people around you is the ultimate ritual.

( Nar sewa, narayan sewa)

Donate to the needy.

2. Respect ladies, kids, environment, aged this is all every religion say..

Do it either it's under name of ritual.

Like : rakhsha Bandhan

Its for your sister.

Diwali , for happiness around.

3. I know you are doing best, still try to be atleast there when your family perform it. Don't go negative for them.

Your thinking should be :

I don't believe in this, but if other do so, I have no negativity for them.

4. If you feel that this atheism has just developed , i don't want to be same ( atheist) and it's hampering you

Seek help from psychiatrist and psychologist.

5. Be a good and healthy individual, rather than a religious follower.

6. For future, as you get married, please do tell your wife about it before

And don't ever forcefully let them( wife and kids) stop if they feel connected to god through rituals.

Have a happy peaceful life !!

 


My Fit Brain

Hello Dear!

Warm wishes to the future of health fraternity. Your teacher suggested you appropriately to the take help.

So, let me help you understand your probably in a systematic way.

The symptoms mentioned you are:

1.fear of crowded places like :public transport or recreational ones 

2. Anxious feeling like palpitations, choking, sweating,  dizziness,  death even.

3 fear of working after getting job in hospital environment.

 

I would have appreciated if you have mentioned here since how long you are fighting with your state.

 

Dear, the symptoms are pointing that you are suffering from agoraphobia (fear of people),echolophobia ( fear of getting harmed if no escape turned out)

 

2. The feeling of anxious is pointing towards social anxiety and it's subordinate feelings .

 

My advice for you would be :

1. Book your session with the psychotherapist and get yourself assessed for  degree of phobia and anxiety.

2. Individual and behavioural therapies like systemic desensitization  and flooding will work wonders.

3.CBT and CDT sessions will be recommended too

4. Try to verbalize your problem to your family members and friends they will help to boost your negativity.

5. Psychiatric help , taking some antianxiolytics will  HELP

6. Keep yourself physically active by walk, meditation etc.

7.  Practice DEEP breathing exercises .

 

Rule is to fight with fear, not to find escape.

Seek help!! You will be fine soon.


My Fit Brain

Hello lady!! I appreciate your dedication towards making and managing house .

A salute to the homemaker lady.

The problems mentioned by you are clearly defining the need for seeking help from health professional as:

1. Anxious feeling especially when alone.

2. Thoughts of death and detachment .

3. Fear of husband's late coming or mishappening.

4. Getting disturbed when you didn't get response from husband on cal.

5.crying spells, restlessness, irritation, numbness.

 

All these problems generally signals that you are suffering from generalised Anxiety Disorder : State of anxiety .

 As soon as anxiety increase, the situation of panicky comes up and you want someone around you.

Importantly, don't force your husband to start his business at home, you will become more dependent on him . You need to be independent , your thoughts are making you weak.

Don't worry, the problem is completely curable and my suggestion for you would be:

 

1. Change lifestyle:

  I now it will be bit difficult in starting, but try to indulge yourself in morning walk, yoga sessions.

 

B.Try to set temple schedule, divert yourSelf to religious satisfaction.

 

C. You can start spending time with your daughters more related to their shopping, clothes, accessories etc. Try to be their helping hand at school or college works.

 

C. Join meditation or naturopathy sessions. To make you feel free from inside.

  The aim of life style modification is just to divert your thoughts in a productive pattern.

 

2. Set a proper cal timings. Give yourself alarm in  a day il, only cal my husband thrice today. Not more than that, be strict. Slowly slowly reduce the frequency. 

 

3. Book appointment with your psychiatrist, and get assessed. 

He might will put you on medicines. Please take them on time. You will be relieved.

 

4. Try to socialize yourself, go to kitties, park get together to get yourSelf diverted to the problems of others.

( The more you will stay at home alone, the more you will be anxious)

 

5. Seek psychologist help, CDT THERAPY And CBT THERAPY  are great help to recover from anxiety .. these are short therapies with sure results.

 

6. You can also do some relaxation deep breathing exercises at home  to soothe yourself at crying situations.

 

I hope my advices would be helpful to you, please don't worry, nobody is going to leave you, you are their life .

 And nothing will happen to anyone as long as you are there to take care of them.

 All the best!!!!


My Fit Brain

Dear, Life only means ups and downs, moreover, god gives difficulties in life to those who believes has power to live upto them.

YOU ARE POWERFUL!

I can really sympathize with you by reading all the situations you faced since your childhood If it was someone else, they must have lost hope , You are really a STRONG WOMAN.

As the current problems you mentioned:

1. History of disturbed events made you fearful.

2. You feel lonely due to loss of love support in your life.

3. Worried, as you feel more problem will make you weak.

4. Lost trust in people as you hurt once.

5. Loss of confidence as you were victim of bullying at work.

6.  Negative thoughts of past and future denies you to live in present.

 

Don't worry, these situation made you so strong for future that you will set a strong example for your daughter.

And remember, every great lady has the history of so much downs like you have be it  IndraGandhi or mother teresa .

YOU WILL SHINE.

So, my piece of advice for you will be:

1. Don't loose hope: you have your whole life standing, invest your energy in positivity like meditation, self improvement.

2. Book your appointment with counselors nearby and go for motivational sessions.

3. Art of living courses will also take you out of answers or dilemma.

4. Join english improvement classes to cover up what you are weak in.

Real life heros are those who corrects their problem as they come.

5. Take proper nutritious food, you will have a strong future lady. Eat to support yourself.

6. Every second person is getting hurt in relationships these day , don't linger , MOVE ON, wait for that right one who will take you in the dream land with him.

If you got hurt once, it doesn't means you will not try again.

7. Don't lose self confidence, you join motivation enhancement classes at wellness centres nearby.

8. You can also go for CBT THERAPY to ventilate your negatives out.

9. Don't feel insecure, develop trust in god, thoZe who don't have anyone, that power is always inside.

Divert in religious activities.

Make friends, socialise, interact. 

Once again I'm telling, YOU ARE ONE OF YOUR KIND.

10. Past shouldn't hamper your present, try to make your future, the best place for your kids to live in. 

 

I know, you will follow the tips and set an inspirational message to the world around.

Be STRONG.


My Fit Brain

Don't get confuse, You did the right effort of seeking psychological help.

As the problems/ history illustrated by you are: 

1.Medically : High diabetes and Hypertension and on medicines.

2. Behaviourally:  aloofness, loss of interest.

3.Affect and Mood: low and disturbed

4. Thoughts: loose association , inappropriate.

5. Perception: shakened, fearful, phobic 

 

Dear, As you mentioned, pReviously he was fine but with growing age he developed the behaviour abnormality.

1. First of all, share the symptoms with your physician, may be the medicines he's taking did hormonal neurotic imbalance which leads to such abnormalities 

2. As you already gone for ultrasound , which seems completely normal, it may be psychotic symptoms.

Feeling of insects in stomach is Tactile hallucination( feeling of stimulus in absence of it)

 

Secondly, phobia ( fear that he will die), Delusion( false , firm beleef) that he whatever he's saying is right although it's lie for you.

  

Self talking also be related to hallucination or autism. ( psychotic symptoms)

 

My piece of advice for you is:

1. Book ab appointment with psychiatrist, may be he will go for psychometric assessment and put him on medicines ( antipsychotic)

2. Get second opinion from physician too, as we are taking father to see psychiatrist.

3. Nutritional deficiency sometimes creates gastric problem which he's feeling abnormal in his stomach, follow proper diet plans, increase frequency of food rather than quantity, 

3. Keep dad in supervision, divert him more towards indoor activities and games.

4. Connect him to the spiritual world, take him to temple .

5. Morning walk , yoga , meditation will bring result.

6.Don't delay, otherwise symptoms will increase.

 So, my empathetic advice, don't get confused, it's your to act and make him back the lovable , jolly as he was.

 Hoping for his early recovery.


My Fit Brain

Hello sir, I know love knows no boundaries but the feel should be from both side. 

As this age of yours need someone to care and love around thts why you are loving the way she's caring and visiting you.

Moreover,developing the feeling  is genuine but , the second person should feel the way, you are feeling.

 As you mentioned that she's having wonderful Family, so , the feeling of  felling in love and want to be in her arms is wrong.

Ya, if you feel that you should share,then you can convey that you are getting attached to her,she herself will let you know the boundary of friendship she has with you.

Don't worry, tell her,telling someone about your feeling is not wrong,this either gives us correct path we need to be on. 

 If the fear is ,that she  will leave you, either she will let you understand her point of view for you and demarcated, the boundaries in your relationship. 

 

My advices for you are:

1. Divert yourself in some activity ; build new hobbies,meet new friends and don't make yourself depend on one person.

2.Make the meeting less,Yes,you can communicate through calls .

 Rule out May be, it's mere physical attraction.

3. I know distancing might be difficult, try to talk and meet your old friends and catch up with them.

 4. In case of help, you can go for professional counselling to help you in this delimma.

5. Give your own family time, go visit them and if you find trust,share with them the case and know their opinion.

 

Don't do anything,that make you happy but someone else Happy,accept the power of 'No

 

All the Best!


My Fit Brain

Hi.. i am not a single parent but here are my thoughts nonetheless..it is indeed true that a child needs both parents love and care.. but children can feel when parents do not have a healthy relationship and that causes depression and heartache too..if living separately and continue to be great parents spearately works for an individual then that is far more better in being trapped in a relationship where 2 individuals are unhappy but still dragging the relationship out of obligation or other notions!!


My Fit Brain

I know it will be bit  difficult in starting, but give chance to him.

If it's first time and he's apologizing and want to improve, you should give him chance..

Rest about transfer in All, it's only give you satisfaction but if they both are in relation till now, distance doesn't matter.

 Let your love speak.


My Fit Brain

Hello Dear! No, you are not going psychopast events sometimes disturbs us but overthinking about them bringing you these problems like serve headache and inability to concentrate and burning sensation.

Yes, your cousin gave you right advice for meditation because you have start living in present. My advice for you as follow:

  • Keep yourself active: Join gym, aerobics, make new hobbies, interact with more friends and socialize.
  • Avoid morning naps takes bath at night and warm mills, keep gadgets away and sleep.
  • For headache, please visit nearby Psychiatrist and got it assessed.
  • You can book appointments and counselor and start CBT and relaxation therapy.
  • Join meditation sessions doing done will be difficult do in guidance.
  •           ALL THE BEST!

My Fit Brain

Hello son, I am happy to know that you are selected in Calcutta fottball team. Keep progressing! but as you know your boards are approaching you need to study for the same.

If its about your mother perpective, parents usually use comparative tone to motivate you don't take it negative, sit with her and toy to tell her your problem that words leaving become difficult for you.

Advices are as follows:

  • Give more time to study, set a schedule to plays only one hour a day.
  • Seek proper help. Go for individual tutions and clear your doubts.
  • Don't stress, if you'll be determined to perform you'll do better. Your mother loves you!
  •              ALL THE BEST!!

My Fit Brain

Hello sir! I can understand the problem you are facing with your kid behaviour. Biting and Beating are both maladaptive behaviour and suitable counsellings are required for it. I also, recommend you to visit psychologist nearby and get him aesessed for hyper activity be cause it may be associated with it. Parent's And Teacher's efforts are appreciable your chil needs proper occupational and behavioural therapy to go better.

Don't wait to take help!


My Fit Brain

Hello Sir! Congratulations for your marriage. I can undersatnd this problems you are facing as mentioned like frequent fainting and doctor also gave clear chit that medically. She is fine according to me, completely 'Hysterical '. Hysterical is a concious behaviour probably fits where person is medically fit. As you mentioned, that she is happy in family all factors are in her positives. So, I advice her to visit nearby Psychologist and get her assessed for 'Hysteria' and seek Psychotherapy. Proper ventilation for her fears will help to improve there may be something. She is not telling but feeling offer her help. The problem will go. 

                                                                                                                         ALL THE BEST!!


My Fit Brain

Hello mam!! As you mentioned your son is diadnosed with Autism and now you are facing adullery in him, behaviour abnormable usally come up with Autism. I request you to visit Child Counselor nearby get himself occupational and behaviour modification therapy before sending him to school. Things will be fine seek help.

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My Fit Brain

Hello! As per the incident you mentioned before taking any step the girl meed to make her positive, self capable. I advice her to first visit a counselor nearby and get counselled, for forgeting past, getting motivated and thereby, thinkung if she wants to go for FIR or not. It's not easy to handle the consequences of interrogation by police anthetee as your friendship is willing. move on! is best. make yourself strong and from nnow onwards. Don't trust someone early.

                                           ALL THE BEST!!


My Fit Brain

Hello dear! By your query I can relate that you are little confused about your careir perspective and even judging your personality too. First of all! Don't be stressed two follow suggestions:

  • Firstly, decide what kind of fols. You are looking for which sector, is it enquires good english or not.
  • Don't be ashamed, if you feel heres something to work on groom yourself. Join personality develpoment classes.
  • Know your positive see where you are good built yourself strong on them.
  • Just be orignal you. While interviewing Don't worry, job interviews want appropriate skills and confidence work on them and to be original you.
  •                                                                                                   ALL THE BEST!!

My Fit Brain

Hello dear! Any realtionship who give you pain to negatively, need to be stop thereby as you mentioned, you are putting yourself on weed and alcohol too. I request you to get over moving on is not that difficult. Ruing ourself just for relationship is bad, visit psychologist nearby, seek help and try to concentrate more on studies.

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My Fit Brain

Hello dear! As you mentioned. You are going through same since 15-18 years and it affected you badly.

Issues facing are:

1. Lost of intrest in studying and doing something new.

2. Forgets old memories

3. Confused nervous and weak

4. Lost power of fighting and appears sure all the lime. Don't panic! Be related and follow the tips.

1.Live in present. I know its difficult to forget past but try to live in present by engaging yourself in new hobbies, meditation classes and yoga session.

2. Visit Psychologist and Counselor nearby, go for therapies like CBT, CDT and Anger Management.

3. Evaluate the negatives, share your problems with you friends and support group.

4. Develop good memories. Make new friends, join parties, go out for trip. The only way to forget bad memories is to make new good ones.

I hope my advice will work for you. 

         All the best!!


My Fit Brain

Hello dear! I can clearly see that you are fear related to living alone away from family. I must have appreciated if you mentioned since when you are feeling the same? It may be the reason that you are homesick and missing family members around. 

Your questions signaling towards 'Anxiety Situation' first of all, I recomend you to visit a Psychologist and get yourself assessed for 'Social anxiety'. My advice for you are as follow:

1. Go for CBT therapy. It helps you to forget with anxiety in positive manner.

2. Don't focus more on insecurity. Go out, make friends. Try to visit your parents more.

3. Keep picture of your collage. Parents and closed ones in your hostel room

4. Try making new friends, start with social media first, then to physical meetings.

5. Live in present, go for hobbies and morning walk or yoga sessions. Make yourself active,stop worrying. 

All the best!!!


My Fit Brain

Hello Sir, thanks for sharing your query with us.I want to appreciate your courage,of coming out with the real desires of your life.

Yes, it really takes courage to speak up for your inner self and the goals you want to achieve in your life. People take whole life to understand what they exactly want to do and live only doing what they are doing.

 But Responsibility is important too in life,may be you felt bad but your wife was not wrong in letting you do the job.

 Understand,it's not necessary that you can't do what you with to do with your routine work.

I can Understand,you opted this job after sudden death of your mother,and doing from 8 years .Don't take it forgranted, it's the prominent source of income for your family. 

 

Relieve your hobby with the job 

 My suggestions for you as follows:

1. Take time out:

 Despite of your job timings,take     time out and start going for learning music as you like,the one you like.

Horn your skills , know what you are good at first.

 Which music skill you are good and pursue in future?

 Know first.

2. Before convincing others about what soothe You,show them the skills you have.

 Then you don't need to quit job,income is important,do it side by side.

3. If in future,you feel you are doing good.

You can pursue career as music teacher or open music academy or teach your college students music.

4. Don't be depressed,even in college time,utilize your free period,visit music faculty in college and seek interest there. This will keep you lively and give reason to your job.

5. If you feel burdened, you can talk to the counsellor and discuss what you feel.

There are many people who work and pursue their interest too.

So,don't be depressed! Work for your happiness and then after knowing what you can Do! Quitting is better.


My Fit Brain

Namaskar!!! I applause your dedication towards study. I'm proud my country has educated farmer like you who can give agriculture a new horizon.

I can Understand, what you are going through, it always take courage to walk on the path less travelled. Passions never need to be repressed otherwise they don't let person live and die satisfactorily.

 You should study and let your kids study too.

 Be proud Yes,you are poor educated farmer.

 May be you are poor by money but you are rich by education.

Money come and go but education always multiples.

 

The work you are doing, is your ancestral work, this is what you are doing as your responsibility and learning is what you want as individual. Both can go, hand in hand as you are doing now.

You are doing Great!!!

 

Make your wife realize the worth of study..

 You don't need to win over her or fight but ,let her know the importance by telling her cons when you will get job .

Your Kids at better position in life , she will understand.

Rest about, society taunts , undesrtand society is what you can't change .

>Problem you are facing for now is concentration issues and you want to study for govt exam too.

My suggestions for you are as follows :

1.  Make schedule: you don't need to spend more time on study than work.

Schedule time ,divide and study worth.

 2. Set right time table,

I know it's difficult for now to tolerate what people say but take it positively.

 Be proud people only give advices to people who do things differently,  not the one who stand in comfortable zone.

Enjoy critisism rather motivate.

3. Ignorance is the biggest answer to fool

Follow it.

4. As your subject is also helpful in appearing for govt exam,read newspaper spend time with learning new things too.

5. Whenever you feel depressed,go out, you have nature with You, spend time with your crops,talk to them,they are living creatures. 

You will feel good.

6. Keep faith in god and patience.

 Everything will be better than you expected.

 

I know you will be the proud for ""India".you will be example for future.

Go on.dont quit ,depressed and sad. All the best!!!


My Fit Brain

Hello dear!!! I can understand the situation you and your spouse are dwelling in as obeying elders are our first moral value.

Your father in law want your husband to make his career in teaching profession by leaving 

Family business (which he was also doing previously ) as all his family people are in teaching profession.

 Dear, every parent want his kid to be best. I think, his decision was to give a respected professional position to his son which he's capable of. 

Old people believe that respect matters more than money and this is what he want from you both.

 But,the problem resulted in socio economical stress.

As you mentioned,  business was earning source for your family.

》Due to which your relatives as well as you started distancing, lost communication, helping in needs . 

》Your husband is feeling frustrated and low for it..

And as a parent, you are feeling that you were not able to fulfil needs to kid.

 

Dear, as your father in law also gives private coaching,you are also earning bit, your husband is giving tuitions too and you have one son.

 Don't worry.. what your father In law planned was a long term plan as he has virtual view of future.

 

 My piece of advice for you are:

1. Talk politely: you and your husband should sit with your father in law and with all emotions let him know the problems you both are facing by leaving the business.

 

Show him the last grocery amount and previous amount that you reduced buying due to money issues, give him substance proof and tell him the guilt you develop for not fulfilling the wishes of kid.

  Trust me,he love your son more than you do..

 Talking with him let him ponder upon his decision.

2. Convey him that,time has changed,now money has power over respect , caste system turned to class system.

3. The talk in the family should always start from general to specific .. firstly appraise the decision taken by him,then tell him the problems.

4.  If still he doesnt convince,You and your husband along with your father in law should start a personal private coaching centre at home and prioritize it as business profession.

5. Don't let your husband go sad and low, go join family functions ,to set new business you always needs to start from pin.

Don't worry,give time..

Profession your father in law choosen is not bad.

6. Lastly,the more you both keep yourself happy and focussed ,the more earning will come.. you both husband wife are the pillars of house.

 Be happy in what you both have,do meditation , yoga together. Support him,give time ,things will be much better.

 All the best 

Have a blessed life ahead 


My Fit Brain

Hello dear!!! You are a brave powerpuff girl>, <career oriented>, <adventurous@gmail.com>, <professional.

 As the problem you mentioned that your parents want you to get married to a family>, <where your fiancee ad his family will not support your career dreams>, <Moreover@gmail.com>, <your parents give you excuse that you are not got placed and you are unsuccessful management person.

 

No>, <this is probably can't be the reason for blocking your professional life but understand>, <this is your right age of getting married and they are doing it as they have too>, <they have given you ample time to live your Me live. 

Telling you for marriage>, <is their responsibility not pushing force as they have given you free environment before marriage.

 My advices for you as follow:

1. Convey: atleast talk to your family>, <let them know what you want to do>, <what you want your future family to be like.

 Every parent want daughters happiness>, <explain them that you want to do job.

2. Talk to your fiancee: as he's also professional>, <plan a meeting>, <tell about your hobbies and interests and let him understand you 

Even if nothing's work out>, <convince him to work you from home.

3. You are not saying 'no': 

Convince your parents that you are not saying no for marriage but the environment and liberties I want>, <the decides marital family will not allow.

 They can look for another family.

4. Talk to them in polite manner>, <aim should not to win but to convey>, <you can use emotional Angel too but don't panic and shout.

They are your own.

Try to tell them the benefit of working lady>, <financial partner.

5. Even if nothing sort out>, <don't feel bad>, <sometimes a new person will change the perspective of family . 

 May be some time later>, <you have to get married>, <keep yourself positive.

6. You can also consult counsellor nearby and evacuate the fear of being trapped. Go with flow in life>,  <they may block your physical needs but you can contact your friends emotio>, sometimes it was not as bad as expected.

 May be they will allow later on.

7. Lastly

Hello dear!!! You are a brave powerpuff girl>, <career oriented>, <adventurous@gmail.com>, <professional.

 As the problem you mentioned that your parents want you to get married to a family>, <where your fiancee ad his family will not support your career dreams>, <Moreover@gmail.com>, <your parents give you excuse that you are not got placed and you are unsuccessful management person.

 

No>, <this is probably can't be the reason for blocking your professional life but understand>, <this is your right age of getting married and they are doing it as they have too>, <they have given you ample time to live your Me live. 

Telling you for marriage>, <is their responsibility not pushing force as they have given you free environment before marriage.

 My advices for you as follow:

1. Convey: atleast talk to your family>, <let them know what you want to do>, <what you want your future family to be like.

 Every parent want daughters happiness>, <explain them that you want to do job.

2. Talk to your fiancee: as he's also professional>, <plan a meeting>, <tell about your hobbies and interests and let him understand you 

Even if nothing's work out>, <convince him to work you from home.

3. You are not saying 'no': 

Convince your parents that you are not saying no for marriage but the environment and liberties I want>, <the decides marital family will not allow.

 They can look for another family.

4. Talk to them in polite manner>, <aim should not to win but to convey>, <you can use emotional Angel too but don't panic and shout.

They are your own.

Try to tell them the benefit of working lady>, <financial partner.

5. Even if nothing sort out>, <don't feel bad>, <sometimes a new person will change the perspective of family . 

 May be some time later>, <you have to get married>, <keep yourself positive.

6. You can also consult counsellor nearby and evacuate the fear of being trapped. Go with flow in life>,  <they may block your physical needs but you can contact your friends emotio>, sometimes it was not as bad as expected.

 May be they will allow later on.

7. Lastly


My Fit Brain

Hello Dear, be calm!!!

The way you are handling and working to support your siblings and family is really commendable.

Eldest son has to go through big compromises in life where the struggles are more and you are doing it nicely.

I must say " you are brave son of your brave parents"

You have the equal or more quality of hard work as your parents have.

 May be financially you are from poor family but the support your parents gave  you is worth million.

But the problem you are facing are:

 

》lost confident at work

》felling nervous and frighten when someone say you thing in high pitch.

I can understand the deep rooted fear you have inside you about your caste( as mentioned) but gone are the day, now class system is more prominent than caste system.

People are more concerned about how much you earn and do rather than what your caste is. Time has changed,you need to change your thinking and feeling of fear too.

》Excessive fear and nervousness is taking you to the problem of Social Anxiety AND YOU need to work on it to maintain a balance in yourself as well as achieving the best for your family.

 

My advices for you as follows

1. My first advice for you is exactly Same as your parents told you in your childhood,I.e.

Be calm, ignore and keep on moving.

Whatever people say or feel they are thinking about you will not make you what you are.

 You are what your skills and degrees are.

 Accept what you have and what you are born to do.

2. Give me an answer,if you go to a restraunt , you get good service there , the manager is talking to politely to You,would you bother to ask for his name and caste ?

No, how you can think the same way dealing with your customers.

They are concerned only with service and the behaviour you are showing them.so don't fear.

3. As you said,you get nervous and fearful when in authority propel shouts you for some work, don't you know they are also in stress of completing work  and this is very common scenario in every job situation , they are not particularly pin pointing you.

4. Be relaxed,try to give yourself time ,know your positives and rather than clinging on past events for that,you can seek help from counsellor nearby,

CBT therapy ,reality therapy,CDT Therapy will help you to come out.

4. Make new friends, go Out , life is changing every moment, increase social outgoing,making new friends will boost your confidence.

5. Practice self talk in the morning like: I'm doing best,il do best of my work, I'm one of my kind.

6. U remember"what's in the name? " by Shakespeare 

Follow it, give your inner self time by doing meditation, and deep breathing exercise,calmness is necessary.

7. For fear issues, try to do aversion therapy,as soon as you feel feared, get up from your chair and go in stairs or main gate ,step up 10 times by counting it .

8. Make support group: talk to your  friends in case you need someone to talk to.

You can also have word with your siblings ,ask them their opinion on caste system or they

 Are facing it.?

 I hope you will get out of it soon,it's not a deal but merely a suspicion in you.

 All the best !!! You will achieve happiness !


My Fit Brain

Hello sir! I m sorry to hear such dramatic events your wife is going through. I can understand the situation you are dealing with. We have all our  empathise with you.

As you mentioned your wife use to faint  a lot before too and now she came up with this ghostly behaviour , 

The history is signalling towards her hysterical behaviour.

The problems you mentioned are:

1.laughing like ghost

2. Jumping off from veranda,by opening hairs.

3. Talking in ghostly voices,rolling eyes, roaming.

4. Doesn't remember what happened.

 

I'm very much glad that rather misguiding you, astrologer and black magic specialist referred you to medical help.

She's disturbed, she needs help.

You please don't go afraid but try to work for her betterment .

 

According to me,it can be possession Behavour , like the spirit possession and trance she's feeling,it can be voluntary or involuntary.

Means,a person can do such behaviour that a spirit is  inside either consciously to take attention , ultimately getting joy or unconsciously means suffering from psychotic  issues .

 My suggestions for you as follows:

1.I recommend you to visit psychologist for  psychodiagnosis properly about her personality as it might be histrionic and then opt for counselling services required for the same.

2. I hope she pretends to be fine in morning, I request you to find out does she has any problem ,any stress, anything that hurting her from within ?

She needs to be counsellors by love and care is anything she's hiding and want to know.answrs ?

If she doesn't answer You, tell her parents to ask her the same by sitting alone in room.so if she doesn't want to share You, can share with the parents.

3. In morning time, make her social,let her visit her school friends, college mates and the one she feels connected too.

4. At night, make her involve before 12 in intimacy, love her , cuddle her , listen to her, do what she likes and observe the behaviour that day.

5. You can also do one thing:plan a day , when he starts behaving the same, in her presence, act like you slipped off in stairs and feeling pained , cry for help, record how she behaves,

If reaction changes , she might be pretending,tell the changes to the psychologist you are referring too.

6.you need to be in constant supervision and contact with psychologist and go for therapies like Reality therapy and relaxation ones.

7.you can also visit psychiatrist of problem persisted then , electronic therapies like ECT And medixine course like tranquilizers will be the solution.

8. You both can sit together for half n hour a day for talking about day to day activities , appreciate her love  and care for you,.

you both can also opt for doing meditation together.

 

Seek help in right direction,don't afraid,she will be fine.


My Fit Brain

Hello ma'am!! Greetings of the day. You are a great example of sacrifice and hardwork.

The way you fulfilled your responsibility is commendable.

You broke the taboo" that girls can't manage responsibility and family " . As of now

I can understand that loneliness is what makes you feel empty.

Problems you are facing 

1.feeling stressed and depressed specially at night.

2. Lost trust in relationship as there is  History of getting hurt in relationship.

3. Feeling of quitting life as there's nothing to look upon.

 

The probable cause is you never lived with yourself, you always fulfilled what responsibilities and relations told you to do , but when you effectively , lived for yourself???

  

What are your hobbies,what you liked to do,what's your interest in life ,your aims ,objectives.

Quest is to find answer for all these ??

 My suggestions for you as follows:

1. Today,make a list of things you always wished to do when you were young.

We all have wishes,which we never got opportunity to do as your life has something else decided for us.

 Make a list and fufill them

2. Make support group:

start making friends through social media,then your office staff and also make a list of friends from school and friends to whom you can contact. 

 Talk to them, find your happiness.

3. Join new hobbies; after office, you can join hobbies  like dance class, aerobics , art and craft the one you feel makes your interest.

4. Get on ,open your arms to the love in your life,everyone is different,you need someone to be around you , your kids, your husband.

You can make profile on online portals ,involve your siblings too later on.

5. Give me time to yourself:go out shopping,catch out with night parties,get together

Give yourself a reason to live and enjoy.

6. You can also join an N.G.O if you feel so like cry foundation or rotract that takes less of your time and involve in helping school kids.this give you pleasure and satisfaction.

7. You can also start giving coaching classes to small kids

At home,this will also give you target to achieve and fill aims in life.

8. When alone can do meditation, night time bath, deep breathing exercises , some stretching and warm milk before going to bed will give Healthy sleep.

9. In case of help,you can also talk to couselor nearby your locations to find a friend within.

 Understand, you cannot be alone in life if you have your God and your aims with you.

 Keep that light alive 

 You are best daughter.

 All the best !!!


My Fit Brain

Hello dear!!! You will achieve heights in life,may be you were not Rabbit who ran fast , but a tortoise who's running slow as to win in life.

In this story,if tortoise have blamed his species of being heavy and habit of running slow , he might have lost the race in between.

If you have decided to achieve the targeted success, don't worry who's first and last, keep moving is important.

  Son, understand two things clearly:

1. The things which are in your destiny at particular time, you will not get it on time only.

"Waqt se pehle , kisi ko kuch ni milta."

2. Success is not characterizes by how many attempts made and whts your age.

 

Remember these things always, you will never get demotivated in life.

 Now, coming to the equality you mentioned here, you know it's an global issue, many who deserves it or not, are enjoying it!!!

Promise yourself and study hard: as soon as you will get night post in civil exams, try to  strict laws who deserves reservation or not.

Help the coming generations so that they don't get demotivated as you are going.

 So , chill up and work again.

I know you will do it !!!

 

》Some of my advices for you :

1. Don't look for people around you, who got selected or not, Don't burn your positivity into jealously, MARK YOUR OWN JOURNEY.

2.  Dont go depresses, keep motivating quotes hanging on your walls or study tables.

Our country need you son.

3. Give youself the relaxation time, meditate by sitting calm and listening your own hartbeart and concentrating  on your breaths,you I'll feel pace inside.

 Do it for 10 mins sitting or sleeping twice a day.

4. Read stories of people, who made to toughest exams of their life,it's said that " the one who got failures Initially, can only know the taste of success"

 Be proud, you are one of them.

5.interact with friends confidently, give time to parents and study focussed, this time you will surely clear it out .

 

All the best 


My Fit Brain

Hello dear, your passion towards our country needs big applause , may every young men has this patriotism as you have either not for joining army but yes, respect for countries and Indian soldiers.

 I'm also happy to know how disciplined you are in your life.

Perfect factor, taking care of study as well as physical health.

 Great Son, you surely want to fulfil your dad's dream and now yours.

 

I can understand your mother's  situation, she atleast lost the support  person  in her life and now you want to dedicate your life to country, thts why she might be worried , depressed and panicky. Support from a Son, it's a biggest power a mother has. Please  do go with her smile in your decision by following the suggestions:

1. Sit with your mother in calm room like Temple or so, convey her mom, may be if you will not like , il do some other work but my conscience will always make me feel that my country is calling me. 

Wait for her decision.

2. Rather telling her , what you feel for your country, make her strong for accepting it. For that you can let her know the honour certificate she will get, the respect among relatives , good salary and pension, house etc.

Make her know the advantages by making her strong.

3. Is there is anyone your mother always listen to, mama or some uncle, convey your message to them, may be they can help. Do it in polite manner.

4. In need of help, you can take her to the counselor nearby and let her evacuate the fears she has related to you and life, family counselling session  will be beneficial. 

5. In case, if your mother doesn't convince and it's effecting her health, I advice you to change your path of achieving your goal towards country, 

She might be concerned for being alone away from you or some mishappening.

If you want to help your country, and your mother needs you too, do something for country sitting  here, join some n.g.o, help poor , work against women trafficking,  corruption, sanitation , pending court cases etc.

Even joining police department , will serve the same purpose.

》 remember, responsibility towards your mother is on priority than responsibility  towards motherland 

 

Keep that light if patriotism towards INDIA burning, path can be anything, think again.

Then convince your mother.

She loves you!!

All the best 


My Fit Brain

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My Fit Brain

Hello dear!! I can understand the phase you are going through, every parent gives their  best and wish for better future for their kids.

I empathise that after getting complaints from school authorities , life of you both got upside turn.

Don't worry , they advised you appropriately to visit the counselor. It will help your kid to get out of vicious habit soon.

 

Present problems mentioned:

1. Caught of taking cigarette on school premises.

2. Denying the fact by saying headmaster is against him.

3. Putting less efforts in studies despite knowing parents economic conditions.

 

Probable causes may be :

1. Pressure of working hard: sometimes kids don't express but pressure of working hard nd achieving better in life make them stress and make it follow bad habits like smoking 

2. Bad company: kids use substance as fun and try element.

Bad company of school mates provoke it.

3. Break up stress: break up is not merely by girlfriend , it can be with best friend or school mates,ignorance and bullying by school mates.

4. Genuinely,he wasn't doing it but someone, puts blame on him incidently he get caught.

 

The reason can be any of these. So suitable advices for you as follow:

1. Don't loose hope: He's small enough to understand right and wrong so early, your guidance will be great benefit. Give him time, sit with him, ( don't pressurize) ask him truth.

Know the exact reason and guide him accordingly.

2. Rule out fear: if you feel he's in fear of some seniors or in stress , discuss properly take suitable help like visiting school counselor or child guidance clinic accordingly.

 You know your kid better.

3. If he become obsessive that he hasn't and going violent, better visit a child counselor nearby and schedule appointment, they work professionally and experienced to rule out reason and guide.

4. Take a proper check at his school routine, school bag, clothes of having lighter or cigarette packets.. 

Room and drawers are also in list.

5.A better guide to truth will also be his friends, talk to them, their information might help you in clearing the scenario of blaming or exactly doing.

6. Father talk:man to man talk bring results, women are emotional sometimes, let his father talk, he's really small to have smoke. 

Tell him the affects and consequences in reality touch.

7. Work on school environment also,if it's case of bullying, blaming or anything else, changing school is not a bad option. 

8. Give more care and attention. 

Help him in studies, stressing him to study by giving list of responsibilities in future is sometimes okay, but not be a must  dose.

 

I hope these advices will help!!

All the best to kid!


My Fit Brain

Hello sir!! I can understand what you are going through, fighting with bodily problems doesn't became problem till when it's get attached with mental and emotional trauma.

 Don't go depressed, every problem needs to be handled properly and in wise manner.

Current problems are:

1. Your wife wants to get separate. 

2. Don't want kid and after your insisting she had by blaming you for rape.

3. Taking some medicines without which she reacts badly.

 

Probable causes can be :

1. She's mentally unwell, she might be going through some personality issues and she's taking medicines to balance her ,that's y she don't want to get pregnant as managing is difficult.

2.  When you insisted her, she has to leave medicines ( not allowed in preganancy) leading to disturbed behaviour like blaming you.

3. May be guilt of marrying you either you are haemophilic or hiding that she's disturbed.

4. Or as a mother she's worried for her child's future as you both are compromised.

 Reason can be any of them or might be different 

 

My advices for you as follows:

1.  Give time to her: plan a date, give love and ask her what the problem , you yourself needs to be calm .

Appraise her responsilities towards you and your care, then  ask her, share her importance in her life.

  This is the best tool to know what's inside her.

2. In case she doesn't get open, call her brother , you all sit and try to jump to  conclusion.

You can also ask for any psychiatric history in past.

(Its your right)

Her mother will soothe her disturbance and internal conflicts.

3. Insure her that you will never leave her, nothing to worry whatever may happen she's your best support. 

Help her.

4. You may also opt for psychological counselling and marital therapy to get what exactly she's going through.

 Getting separated sounds easy but it's really tough.

Make your relationship strong.

 

5. In the last, I want you to be strong, if she wanrs to leave you  one and all. 

Don't go depressed, I know it will pain but if another Person is only breathing but not living with you. Pls let her go then.

 

 I pray , you both remain together with a happy bonding  by crossing this small hurdle.

All the best!!


My Fit Brain

Hello sir!! I can empathise the situation you are dwelling in. winning and losing is a part of journey called life.

First of all, don't quit, stand firm. when your business go high, your family supports you  same when you went through some loss they will be there to support you.

Sharing makes you less burdened and helps you to move on fast.

 》 every person wants to invest money either in property or gold to have a safer future.

As the slump in property going on,  making the  investment zero.

Don't worry, falls are just ways to tell the person to always see the path where you are putting your steps.

 Don't go hopeless. Your kids are your hope.

Your father is your help.

 

 

 My advices for you as follows:

1. Share first: 

Disclose the loss to your family members, sit with them be brave on your capabilities and express in positive way like "I have done this wrong , I want your support , we will able to overcome it soon.

I know you all trust me."

2. Greediness is normal human nature, don't stress  yourself.

Talk to your friend or property dealer , take legal advice any possible way out, any further way of filling case and getting some way out.

3. Talk to family c.a and try to manage loss accounts , you yourself is business man you can understand, going up and down is part of business.

4. In extreme worry, take help from counselor nearby ,you can also involve any elder in family and sort help.

 

 Don't loose help

 All the best!!


My Fit Brain

Hello sir!! No, dont force her for marriage, it might worsen the condition.

Your sister needs help , she might be in depression. A proper guidance and a helping hand will help her to get out of her problems and developing interest in life and marriage.

 Present problems are:

1. Always sad

2.forgetting things she did or doing

3. Introverted personality.

4. No interest in studies, marriage and being self independent.

5. Uncomfortable nature.

 

My advices for you as follows:

1. Firstly, sit with her, try her to evacuate what's inside her, ask her what makes her weak is that the death of his father

Sudden burdens and demise if loved one put person in Grief. 

2. Make her visit a counselor nearby and talk. Certain therapies like CBT and behaviour therapy will help her to be balanced and bring happiness.

3. Don't force for marriage rather put her to more physical exercise like morning walk and yoga 

4. Meditation will also help her to make her mind settle.

5. For fogetfullness:

Tell her to schedule daily routines and do it accordingly.

6. Also try to find out, is there's any history of break up and other personal issues.

 

7. Making friends will make her happy allow her to spend time with friends and be happy.

 

She will be perfectly fine, she need right help.


My Fit Brain

Hello dear!! Don't worry , we are here to help you. Thanks for sharing query here.

Understand, you are still as jolly and loving person as you were but the incident made you fearful resulting in anxiety > hence numbness of limbs. .

 

Present complaints:

1. Numbness in hands and feets

2. Not able to concentrate on business , study.

3. Not able to ride bike

4. Afraid of marriage , not sure about future and can't plan for same. 

5. Avoiding friends

 

 Dear, let's understand that incident again and try to find the cause:

You had weed kulfi that day , it increases the serotonin uptake hormone in your brain and a sudden feeling of dizziness, weakness and turning of world upside down came to you.

 When next morning you started driving , that anxiety of the moment along with sudden gush of hormone made you fearful , this actually giving you the physical symptoms of numbness in hands.

 

My suggestions for you as follows:

1. First of all Understand,you are absolutely fine, this is just anxiety, once you know how to fight with it , you will be again the same person .

2. For this, take help from a psychologist nearby, go through some therapies like CBT Therapy, reality Therapy,interpersonal therapy, CDT Therapy

This will help you to fight with the current scenario.

3. Try to socialise with people, your friends, don't escape like Avoiding, if you feel afraid in starring that you cannot stand them for long, give 10 mins and then increase time with friends.. 

4. Similarly, with driving, nothing will happen tell you friend to be with you in Starting, take small round first and then big one...

 Divert yourself from numbness .. Try looking what you are achieving.

5. If you feel problem is increasing,don't escape, visit psychiatrist , medicinal help ( anxiolytics) is necessary in emergency.

6. Divertion is the best cure , put yourself in relaxational activities like meditation,  yoga , gyming etc.

7. Go for morning walk ( brisk)in the morning.

 

Pls keep in mind,it's just an anxiety issues, you can easily win over, don't delay important decision in your life because you are afraid of it 

Be a strong man, And move forward.

All the best


My Fit Brain

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