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Boy, don't go disheartened. You are doing great. I can see that you are putting efforts, but worried for future results and grades. The more you think about future, you will become anxious and the stress will automatically increase pressure and decrease performance. You will again feel hopeless and this vicious circle continues. Son, if you keep on thinking the way you are now, so much negativity and suicidal tendencies will take you in depression. Secondly, your parents must be comparing you,just to motivate you, take it positively, they are not meant to discourage you anyhow. They live you more than any of your cousin. And yes, your confidence is a massive reply to your friends who bully you. You need to work on it. Rest all, you are doing great. YOu are NOT AT ALL A FAILURE. My advices for you are as follows: 1. Seek professional help, EDUCATIONAL COUNSELLING will help you regain the hope in you. 2. Concentration exercises and session will help you memorize the learned matter. 3. Meditation and living in present habits will enhance your horizons. 4. Moreover, share your problem , with your parents, if not father but at least your mother , she will be your great support. 5. Parental counselling , so that they can help you to pass this crest of negativity. Lastly, I want to tell you , each nd everyone go through this phase in life be it Narender Modi or Albert Einstein.The winner is only one who keeps on moving. All the best!!!
Hello lady!! I appreciate your dedication towards making and managing house . A salute to the homemaker lady. The problems mentioned by you are clearly defining the need for seeking help from health professional as: 1. Anxious feeling especially when alone. 2. Thoughts of death and detachment . 3. Fear of husband's late coming or mishappening. 4. Getting disturbed when you didn't get response from husband on cal. 5.crying spells, restlessness, irritation, numbness. All these problems generally signals that you are suffering from generalised Anxiety Disorder : State of anxiety . As soon as anxiety increase, the situation of panicky comes up and you want someone around you. Importantly, don't force your husband to start his business at home, you will become more dependent on him . You need to be independent , your thoughts are making you weak. Don't worry, the problem is completely curable and my suggestion for you would be: 1. Change lifestyle: I now it will be bit difficult in starting, but try to indulge yourself in morning walk, yoga sessions. B.Try to set temple schedule, divert yourSelf to religious satisfaction. C. You can start spending time with your daughters more related to their shopping, clothes, accessories etc. Try to be their helping hand at school or college works. C. Join meditation or naturopathy sessions. To make you feel free from inside. The aim of life style modification is just to divert your thoughts in a productive pattern. 2. Set a proper cal timings. Give yourself alarm in a day il, only cal my husband thrice today. Not more than that, be strict. Slowly slowly reduce the frequency. 3. Book appointment with your psychiatrist, and get assessed. He might will put you on medicines. Please take them on time. You will be relieved. 4. Try to socialize yourself, go to kitties, park get together to get yourSelf diverted to the problems of others. ( The more you will stay at home alone, the more you will be anxious) 5. Seek psychologist help, CDT THERAPY And CBT THERAPY are great help to recover from anxiety .. these are short therapies with sure results. 6. You can also do some relaxation deep breathing exercises at home to soothe yourself at crying situations. I hope my advices would be helpful to you, please don't worry, nobody is going to leave you, you are their life . And nothing will happen to anyone as long as you are there to take care of them. All the best!!!!
Hello Francis!! I welcome the young guest in the heart of our country,Delhi. Get assured,I will help you my best dear. Issues you are facing are: 1.harassment in public areas like metro,bus stand, college campus etc. 2. FEAR while going outside leading to anxiety. 3. Felt bad by Being called overtly . 4.history of getting beaten up by local gangs when complained. 5.Not comfortable with other people because of their behaviour towards you Dear Francis, India has people from various religion, caste, creed etc. minorities always need to suffer bit. It's only you but may be Muslims in India go through same problem. Let me help you by remembering an incident from history. Sir, Nelson Mandela from your country and Mahayana gandhiji from our country fought for racism. You and We,all are same. We are humans connected by love. The problem for social anxiety you are feeling is genuine as you developed the fear of mixing the people around. So let me help you to get out,suggestions are : 1. Don't hesitate,living with your friends only is just escape not the win. Go out with them,may be first 5 stranger might not be good,6th will surely be. 2. J.p duminy is the living example for the same, our respect for such all-rounder cricketer. Skills are what is important, you are doing great ,don't worry what people around you think . 3. Try to socialise , don't hide, start with online media, like facebook , Twitter. 4. As you mentioned,you came India on scholarship,you seems intelligent , work hard lad. It's important. 5. For anxiety,you can seek a friendly help from counsellors and go for cognitive therapy. Learn to love yourself in life first. 6. Self meditation,music and dance exercise in a day make you feel energetic in routine. 7. Share your feelings with new friend there,may be someelse else in your college campus needs a friend like you. 8. In public traveling,you can use headset and music stations to stay way from negativity. 9. Remember in life, you don't need certificate from all that they all like you,be an example . Work Hard and enjoy the life 10. You can also join gym and aerobics for working on appearance if you really want to work on yourself. Follow the suggestions,you will achieve heights.
Hello lady! I appreciate your efforts towards leaving the alcohol because continuation at such early age will effect your health badly . Your determinations needs to be applauded. Issues mentioned: 1. Sleeping difficulty. 2. Anxious state 3. Palpitations and shortness of breath 4. Sweating palms. 5. Loss of concentration. Dear,as you already telling that you are pursuing masters ,difficulty to concentrate might be putting effect on your studies. Probable causes: Alcohol intake usually results in decency and once you opt for leaving it,withdrawal symptoms come like anxiety and insomnia. You are going through the same commonly known as Delirium tremens. These withdrawal sometimes are so strong that they cause to lapse again but I m sure you will follow my advices and work hard to get rid of this habit completely: Diagnosis: Get yourself assessed, for anxiety scale online or by visiting psychologist. My suggestions for you are: 1. Make a support group: Keep a list of people who know that you are in the journey of leaving alcohol,call them and talk when you feel anxious. 2. Use time: boredom and being alone brings negative thought and increase tendency of brain to think more,you can join some gym,yoga nd moreover,do skipping ropes and cycling to maintain calmness in body. 3. Some drugs are available to combact insomnia and anxiety which usually doctor prescribe in extremes like benzodiapenes but overcoming their addiction is again a deal. 4. For sleep issues: A. Avoid naps in a day, keep yourself moving the whole day. B. Avoid stimulants,Caffeine brewers are big no-no. C . When you go the bed try to switch for relaxational videos and music,easily available on YouTube and if still there's problem you can try some exercise at night. D. Ethnic room with dark lights and hot milk , hot bath before going to bed can be tried. E. Don't use electronic gadgets on bed for longer time. F. Some vitamin supplements also work for betterment,prescribed by doctor. 5. Set routine: for sleep and good diet, healthy meals and lots of fruits , vegetables and lots of water. 6. Whenever you feel anxious,don't go for rest ,go out work,exercise,talk to support groups and dance by playing songs. 7. If you are extrovert, try to go for parties ( not alcoholic one) , spend time with your parents and meeting relatives If introvert,put on your favourite movie,favourite book or subject spend time. Understand,initially may be concentration is a problem,taking break after very 15 - 20 mins is ohkay. You are doing great. 8. Aroma therapy,spa, naturopathy treatment will be helpful too,I even advice you to do gardening,connect with nature. 9. Self talk:don't repress but encourage yourself like, It's just the phase,it will go I'm doing great I will able to do it perfectly. This is not going to harm me. 10. For motivation,you can also keep your diary of progress,look at that early in morning and night,feel inspired . 11. Go for Morning deep breathing exercises like parnayam. Just understand the crisp , This is just the phase of withdrawal and the symptoms,these only come when you work hard. Go on,don't stop my brave girl.
Hello dear! By your query I can relate that you are little confused about your careir perspective and even judging your personality too. First of all! Don't be stressed two follow suggestions: