Q. I'm a 28 years old male, am an orphan. From my childhood, I was in an orphan home. Now I'm a teacher in a govt school. From my childhood, I feel very insecure. I feel think there is nothing I can achieve that's why I don't make any relationship. There's a girl who is my colleague I love her. She also loves me but her father is very orthodox. He rejected me as am an orphan I don't have any caste not have any surname. I feel very lonely and disturbed. I don't know what to do know? Guide me.
Don't be depressed! If a person doesn't have a parent, he has the Godparent to support them. A person don't need a caste or surname for recognition, you just need a true soul to be identified. I can understand dear, it was difficult for anyone to live in orphanage, but I know there must be someone who loves and care for you the most in orphanage and you are not Alone dear, all the kids who are there in orphanage are your support.
As the problem stated by you are:
1. Rejected in the relationship by the girl's father
2.difficulty coming in relationship with someone
3. Feeling of loneliness and disturbed thoughts
4. Insecurity in life. You are thinking negative, only because getting rejected and the reason behind it made you shattered.
My piece of advice for you would be :
1. Don't be sad! You are doing great .. you are inspiration for many people in orphanage who might want to be self-dependent like you.
2. You are not alone, look out.I'm sure there must be people you will trace who love and respect you.
3. Solve your relationship: if the girl loves you, she will understand: caste and surname is no way to reject someone. You can even sit with her father, explain to him your life struggle and can opt-out a solution like adopting their religion or caste And shifting at their house too. even still they don't agree, moving on is the better option.
4. Seek counselling help: Go to a counsellor nearby and discuss issues, they will ventilate your negative thoughts
5. Join some meditation and yoga sessions to balance your inner self
6. Avoiding relationship yield no result: go out, make friends, everyone needs a person like you to make a friend.
7. Don't be lonely: your school, your kids need you.
8. Try to divert your mind towards the love of your school kids.
9. Lastly, you can join as alumni in your own orphanage and spend time with the kids there so none of them feel lonely and insecure and lonely as you might feel sometime.be their best friend. Don't worry, you will be fine soon.
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