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Q. I'm a 29 year old studied MBA in HR, going to get married. It is an arranged marriage. My family is very orthodox, I am a born free type girl but my parents and my would-be husband and his family is very quiet, simple and bit traditional. My parents, husband & his family doesn't allow me to join a job. My husband is Project Manager in MNC, in my college there I had some group of girls who are very adventures. With them, I use to feel free. I had a great time with all of them. That time I use to do bike riding without letting my parents know about that. I was the trainer in a start-up, I'm missing all those time. I don't know how my future will be. I want to maintain my professional life also after marriage, but all family members said I'm unsuccessful management person, didn't get good placement. Is this the reason for blocking my further professional life? -


Hello dear!!! You are a brave powerpuff girl>, <career oriented>, <adventurous@gmail.com>, <professional.

 As the problem you mentioned that your parents want you to get married to a family>, <where your fiancee ad his family will not support your career dreams>, <Moreover@gmail.com>, <your parents give you excuse that you are not got placed and you are unsuccessful management person.

 

No>, <this is probably can't be the reason for blocking your professional life but understand>, <this is your right age of getting married and they are doing it as they have too>, <they have given you ample time to live your Me live. 

Telling you for marriage>, <is their responsibility not pushing force as they have given you free environment before marriage.

 My advices for you as follow:

1. Convey: atleast talk to your family>, <let them know what you want to do>, <what you want your future family to be like.

 Every parent want daughters happiness>, <explain them that you want to do job.

2. Talk to your fiancee: as he's also professional>, <plan a meeting>, <tell about your hobbies and interests and let him understand you 

Even if nothing's work out>, <convince him to work you from home.

3. You are not saying 'no': 

Convince your parents that you are not saying no for marriage but the environment and liberties I want>, <the decides marital family will not allow.

 They can look for another family.

4. Talk to them in polite manner>, <aim should not to win but to convey>, <you can use emotional Angel too but don't panic and shout.

They are your own.

Try to tell them the benefit of working lady>, <financial partner.

5. Even if nothing sort out>, <don't feel bad>, <sometimes a new person will change the perspective of family . 

 May be some time later>, <you have to get married>, <keep yourself positive.

6. You can also consult counsellor nearby and evacuate the fear of being trapped. Go with flow in life>,  <they may block your physical needs but you can contact your friends emotio>, sometimes it was not as bad as expected.

 May be they will allow later on.

7. Lastly

Hello dear!!! You are a brave powerpuff girl>, <career oriented>, <adventurous@gmail.com>, <professional.

 As the problem you mentioned that your parents want you to get married to a family>, <where your fiancee ad his family will not support your career dreams>, <Moreover@gmail.com>, <your parents give you excuse that you are not got placed and you are unsuccessful management person.

 

No>, <this is probably can't be the reason for blocking your professional life but understand>, <this is your right age of getting married and they are doing it as they have too>, <they have given you ample time to live your Me live. 

Telling you for marriage>, <is their responsibility not pushing force as they have given you free environment before marriage.

 My advices for you as follow:

1. Convey: atleast talk to your family>, <let them know what you want to do>, <what you want your future family to be like.

 Every parent want daughters happiness>, <explain them that you want to do job.

2. Talk to your fiancee: as he's also professional>, <plan a meeting>, <tell about your hobbies and interests and let him understand you 

Even if nothing's work out>, <convince him to work you from home.

3. You are not saying 'no': 

Convince your parents that you are not saying no for marriage but the environment and liberties I want>, <the decides marital family will not allow.

 They can look for another family.

4. Talk to them in polite manner>, <aim should not to win but to convey>, <you can use emotional Angel too but don't panic and shout.

They are your own.

Try to tell them the benefit of working lady>, <financial partner.

5. Even if nothing sort out>, <don't feel bad>, <sometimes a new person will change the perspective of family . 

 May be some time later>, <you have to get married>, <keep yourself positive.

6. You can also consult counsellor nearby and evacuate the fear of being trapped. Go with flow in life>,  <they may block your physical needs but you can contact your friends emotio>, sometimes it was not as bad as expected.

 May be they will allow later on.

7. Lastly

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