Q. I have two children. I'm married for last eight years. My elder daughter is in trouble. She is being molested sexually by the flat gatekeeper a few months back. She is 7years old. From then only she has started staying aloof. She doesn't want to mix up with her peer group nor want to have food properly. She is not able to focus on her study. Her class teacher asks me to take her to a counselor. What should I do? Please do suggest me.
Lady, your daughter's teacher is absolutely right. We all say, bad things come and go, they are the part of life but staying strong again is the biggest task, you need the courage to do it. Your daughter needs someone to enforce courage inappropriate manner.
As you mentioned, that she's being molested, this either gave her the negative sign about her sexuality or she was not able to cope with the happening.
1. Staying aloof is the subjective sign that she things negative and leading to depression.
2. Don't want to take food properly and lost focus is the combined symptoms leading to depression.
My advice to you as follows:
1. Appreciation: appreciate her constantly how she fought up against the bad person. everyone don't have courage, you are a brave girl.mom is proud of you.
2. Modelling: tell her the folklores, stories, about the ladies who fought back and succeeded. How they are keeping themselves happy overcoming it.
3. Evaluate and ventilate: take her to her favourite peaceful place either temple or park and try that she evacuate what exactly she feels. Don't worry if she cries, let her evacuate. 3. Plan an outing: You all can plan an outing with family, try to take her to child places like amusement parks, picnics, to give her the change.
4.meditation and yoga will help to divert her.
5. Make her the food she like, even u can tell her nanny to come and cook for her( everyone loves grandparent's hand food)
6. If that person ( gatekeeper) still work there or in ur reach, fight to give him punishment.
7. Take her to the counsellor, they will be the ultimate help. I can understand, your part as a mother, do little efforts, your beautiful daughter will be back with a smile.
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