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Dear, Life only means ups and downs, moreover, god gives difficulties in life to those who believes has power to live upto them. YOU ARE POWERFUL! I can really sympathize with you by reading all the situations you faced since your childhood If it was someone else, they must have lost hope , You are really a STRONG WOMAN. As the current problems you mentioned: 1. History of disturbed events made you fearful. 2. You feel lonely due to loss of love support in your life. 3. Worried, as you feel more problem will make you weak. 4. Lost trust in people as you hurt once. 5. Loss of confidence as you were victim of bullying at work. 6. Negative thoughts of past and future denies you to live in present. Don't worry, these situation made you so strong for future that you will set a strong example for your daughter. And remember, every great lady has the history of so much downs like you have be it IndraGandhi or mother teresa . YOU WILL SHINE. So, my piece of advice for you will be: 1. Don't loose hope: you have your whole life standing, invest your energy in positivity like meditation, self improvement. 2. Book your appointment with counselors nearby and go for motivational sessions. 3. Art of living courses will also take you out of answers or dilemma. 4. Join english improvement classes to cover up what you are weak in. Real life heros are those who corrects their problem as they come. 5. Take proper nutritious food, you will have a strong future lady. Eat to support yourself. 6. Every second person is getting hurt in relationships these day , don't linger , MOVE ON, wait for that right one who will take you in the dream land with him. If you got hurt once, it doesn't means you will not try again. 7. Don't lose self confidence, you join motivation enhancement classes at wellness centres nearby. 8. You can also go for CBT THERAPY to ventilate your negatives out. 9. Don't feel insecure, develop trust in god, thoZe who don't have anyone, that power is always inside. Divert in religious activities. Make friends, socialise, interact. Once again I'm telling, YOU ARE ONE OF YOUR KIND. 10. Past shouldn't hamper your present, try to make your future, the best place for your kids to live in.

Hello Ma'am, congratulations for finding the love of your life. If age is the only criteria which comes as the hindrance for both of you to get married, then pls don't. If the other criteria like stability, compatibility, health conditions , economic conditions, love ,trust and respect among you is perfect than AGE IS JUST THE NUMBER. I can Understand, it's becoming difficult for you to convince your parents and relatives for the same but let them understand, that may be they will find a person in late 30s and mid 40s for You, but the love you both have, can't be traced back. Issues as you mentioned are >unable to make parents understand about marriage. >feeling bad about the negative and hurting comments by relatives. My advices for you are: 1. Know yourself: Dear, sit alone and ask yourself first, you love him? You feel you can't get Someone like him??? You will be happy with him? You will never regret after marrying him??? If your heart and mins says positive reply for majority of answers then you are on right path, Before convincing anyone in the world, you yourself need to be sure about your life. 2. Take some more time: Know except age what are the other factors your mother or sister raise for him,take time , try to find answer, know person more. Ultimately, in the end your family want to see you Happy, In the starting may be it's difficult, but later on , all what matter is more happier you. 3. Arrange a meeting with both families, only near ones,let them interact,find common topics to discuss and knowing views. 4. Society, you can't tell them individually how much you love him and his goodness, go on,make yourself deaf ear to their words The road not taken is always difficult to start on. 5. Dont stress, You be Happy about the beautiful future you both have, the confidence on your face will give answer to everyone's comment. 6. If you can Arrange, a small picnic or trip with your family and him, sometimes new locations makes connections. 7. You can communicate with your mother and sisters about the live examples around with age gaps,tell the positives about the elder groom like stability,understanding and all. Communicate about all the good habits and attitude about him. This you can also do by diving the sheet of paper into two phases, and tell your mother to write negative and positive about this marriage. Give them suitable explanations and convince them in polite manner that " I know he's right for me' ' he's the best one' I know you will do it!!! Blessed future ahead All the best !!