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Q. I'm 26 years old girl. I had lost alot in my life. From my childhood my life was not so smooth it was full of ups and downs. I saw my father to abuse my mother every second and sometimes he use to bit her alot due to some issues. I saw my helpless mother crying helplessly. Nobody helped her not even my mother could overcome from this situation and died one day by committing suicide out of these continuos torture of my father. As I grow I being touched by love but there also I was ditched by him. Then joined a job but there also I became the victim of bullying by my colleagues and seniors due my accent in English. I started feeling very low in confidence loose all my hopes to stand strong. These series of events in my life makes my mind very week. Its full of complications, dilemmas, fearful thoughts about future. I only can imagine bad outcomes of any situation and repeatedly these thoughts are making my condition poor day by day. I have loose the trust in any relationship. I feel very helpless, I feel like it's end of my life. Sometimes I feel very much worried lonely fearful that can't explain in words.


Dear, Life only means ups and downs, moreover, god gives difficulties in life to those who believes has power to live upto them. YOU ARE POWERFUL! I can really sympathize with you by reading all the situations you faced since your childhood If it was someone else, they must have lost hope , You are really a STRONG WOMAN. As the current problems you mentioned: 1. History of disturbed events made you fearful. 2. You feel lonely due to loss of love support in your life. 3. Worried, as you feel more problem will make you weak. 4. Lost trust in people as you hurt once. 5. Loss of confidence as you were victim of bullying at work. 6. Negative thoughts of past and future denies you to live in present. Don't worry, these situation made you so strong for future that you will set a strong example for your daughter. And remember, every great lady has the history of so much downs like you have be it IndraGandhi or mother teresa . YOU WILL SHINE. So, my piece of advice for you will be: 1. Don't loose hope: you have your whole life standing, invest your energy in positivity like meditation, self improvement. 2. Book your appointment with counselors nearby and go for motivational sessions. 3. Art of living courses will also take you out of answers or dilemma. 4. Join english improvement classes to cover up what you are weak in. Real life heros are those who corrects their problem as they come. 5. Take proper nutritious food, you will have a strong future lady. Eat to support yourself. 6. Every second person is getting hurt in relationships these day , don't linger , MOVE ON, wait for that right one who will take you in the dream land with him. If you got hurt once, it doesn't means you will not try again. 7. Don't lose self confidence, you join motivation enhancement classes at wellness centres nearby. 8. You can also go for CBT THERAPY to ventilate your negatives out. 9. Don't feel insecure, develop trust in god, thoZe who don't have anyone, that power is always inside. Divert in religious activities. Make friends, socialise, interact. Once again I'm telling, YOU ARE ONE OF YOUR KIND. 10. Past shouldn't hamper your present, try to make your future, the best place for your kids to live in.

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Q. I'm 22 years old male, basically from a middle-class family. I am a student of B.Com final year and am an average student. For last six month my life is not running smooth. It has changed suddenly. I had a girlfriend. I really loved her a lot even still now I love her. But six months before I have caught her in a movie Hall with another one guy. Then I came in front of her in the parking area and found she was behaving differently with me. That boy also abused me, I loosed my temper and slapped and have slapped her as well. Before this incident, I haven't loose my mind like this, but I'm not feeling any guilt by slapping both of them at that time. That day after the fight she has accepted that that boy is her boyfriend and also threaten me by saying that the boy has some political connection so I should keep distance. I loose my mind again as it directly hit on my ego and again mess up with that boy. But I was alone in front of his gang of five boys; so beaten up badly and was hospitalised after a good fight. I couldn't reveal my original incident to my parents; I lied to my parents. But I'm trying to control myself, not able to forget her. Out of my control I have called my ex-girlfriend many times but she gave me a very cold reply. I miss her a lot, I miss her love and care towards me. I want to be happy again in my life but don't know how?? I feel cheated, rejected, lonely. Tried to divert my mind from the thoughts of my ex but I couldn't. I have changed my routine, changed my target, have started preparing for civil services but still not able to concentrate. Her thoughts are coming into my mind again and over again. Help me, please.

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