Sep 06, 2017
Q. I'm 23 years old lady working in a multinational company in front office. I fell in love with my senior manager when I came here as a trainee two years back. We started becoming close and after some days we started living together just nearby to my place. As I'm from different state so it became easy for me to stay in living relationship with him. My senior who became my lover is 10 years elder than me. We had a strong physical relationship with him. Once I got pregnant but he force me to abort the child. He use to bit me, use to give me slags. He use to take money from me forcefully. I don't have father; I have an elder brother and my my mom stays with my brother and his wife there in Uttarakhand. They got to know about my relation with him as he went to my house. In the mean time I got to know something more about him from his friends. Few said he is married and few said he is engaged. But when I enquired from him he denied. Suddenly while searching got to know everything is true. I feel like dying. I'm hopeless helpless, my life has become meaningless as he left me too. Help me.
Hello, you are stressed dear, the way you are feeling about yourself can lead you towards depression. I can understand that the love( physical) was strong enough between you both, but now it's emotionally hurting you back. First of all, In your life if any relation start giving you pain or torture, the solution is always to get out. He's not right one for you if he do any act forcefully. Moreover after tracing the history, he doesn't deserve your single tear. My set of advices for you will be : 1. Go and seek counselling help They will help you to overcome the emotional weakness. 2. Cognitive behaviour therapy to evacuate the negativity and suicidal tendencies coming in your mind. 3. He lost you, his loss. You gave 100% , don't feel guilty. This incidence will make you strong for future. 4. Divert yourself positively, meditation, yoga will help. 5. Life is not about failure, it's about how quickly you overcome it. Keep on moving . I know, you will do it , You are strong. Keep loving yourself.
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