Aug 19, 2017
Q. I'm 60 years old man staying alone in Dubai. I'm not married. I have my brother and sister there in India. They are all married and settled. Recently I met a woman in a market and she is married, she has a wonderful family too. She is very caring towards me. We frequently visit each other. But problem is that I fell in love with that beautiful lady and can't express my desire to her. I'm afraid that after knowing this she might leave me all alone but sometimes I really do want to have her in my arms. I want to be with her but its illegal. What should I do, don't know?
Hello sir, I know love knows no boundaries but the feel should be from both side.
As this age of yours need someone to care and love around thts why you are loving the way she's caring and visiting you.
Moreover,developing the feeling is genuine but , the second person should feel the way, you are feeling.
As you mentioned that she's having wonderful Family, so , the feeling of felling in love and want to be in her arms is wrong.
Ya, if you feel that you should share,then you can convey that you are getting attached to her,she herself will let you know the boundary of friendship she has with you.
Don't worry, tell her,telling someone about your feeling is not wrong,this either gives us correct path we need to be on.
If the fear is ,that she will leave you, either she will let you understand her point of view for you and demarcated, the boundaries in your relationship.
My advices for you are:
1. Divert yourself in some activity ; build new hobbies,meet new friends and don't make yourself depend on one person.
2.Make the meeting less,Yes,you can communicate through calls .
Rule out May be, it's mere physical attraction.
3. I know distancing might be difficult, try to talk and meet your old friends and catch up with them.
4. In case of help, you can go for professional counselling to help you in this delimma.
5. Give your own family time, go visit them and if you find trust,share with them the case and know their opinion.
Don't do anything,that make you happy but someone else Happy,accept the power of 'No
All the Best!
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