What Does It Feel Like When You Love Someone?

Neha Mehta
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12 Jan 2021
when you love someone

Love inhabits everywhere like air and water, light, and sunshine. Where would we go without love? Something mysterious and strange felt at all ages; love knows no bounds. As vast as space and gentle like a flower, of sweet aroma and represented in a hundred pretty shades, love is fundamental to existence. 

The love relationship is often felt as a deep emotion between individuals of the opposite sex. Considering that times are changing, relationships between same-sex couples also have similar feelings. What happens when you love someone? 

An intense feeling of affection is the common meaning of love, though true love may be rare to find. Attachment and commitment, romantic fervour, or erotic passion, such terms often communicate what the love emotion feels like. Love for persons and feelings for objects and places, works of art, books, buildings, etc. can also define love. Isn't it true that life brings together a wide variety of passions and choices is necessary? The same applies to the shopping online experience with too many possibilities on offer. 

It is a question worth pondering:

How deep is your love? 

MEN SHOW AFFECTIOIN TO HIS LOVE

Infinite and universal, love is like nature itself 

Bound by nature's laws, humans are a cosmic part of that magical universe that surrounds. How shall we most appropriately describe ourselves? 

Stardust, some would say. 

Children of God! 

Products of evolution! 

Flesh, blood, and bones, created by God! 

Love binds humanity together, along with the fundamental needs of food, shelter and clothing, light, air, and water. Inclusions are the houses, land and money, pets, and domesticated animals that generate profit. Born and growing up surrounded by mystical love bonds, we have never known its absence. Love may transform into different shapes and colours, but intrinsically love remains until we perish and beyond. 

If love is infinite, can it be permanent? 

Some philosophies say that everything around us is an illusion and thus unreal. Is love a dream too? 

Plumbing the depths of love

Searching like on the internet browser or Google, we would have thousands of answers, but do we need so many? 

Perhaps No !! 

Beginning with the seven types of love, have you heard? 

  • Philautia or love of the self 
  • Philia is an affectionate love 
  • Eros or love of the body
  • Storge – a love of the child 
  • Ludus means playful love 
  • Pragma means a long-lasting love 
  • Agape is a selfless love 

We realize the overlapping nature of the seven love instincts. Suffice it is to say that love is a colourful butterfly that attracts attention wherever it flies. The dainty little creature has tremendous fairy-like power and vibrant colours and translucence that set it apart from the other creatures. Love may be compared to a red rose with the supernatural appeal. 

Lotus flower perhaps is more appropriate because of the mud upon which the flower grows and remains separate from the elements that nourished it. 

Can we separate the mud? 

Though lost in dreams to understand how deep is your love, that is merely the visionary surface. If love is to be measured through effort, sacrifice, fame, wealth, power, and splendour, history is replete with towering examples!  Consider the present areas of conflict, hunger and starvation, immigration problems, and even the pandemic in impoverished countries; don't they indicate the absence of love?  

Who is fostering the evils? 

When will social and economic inequality end? History shows that colonialism and slavery did end though they flourished for centuries. Though social ills exist and human trafficking, drugs, arms smuggling too, and animal poaching, war is always in progress to put them down. To end this up, love needs to be flourished in the right way. 

And to do that: 

Give love a thumbs up forever!

Trying to fathom the depths of love, vast and deep like the oceans of space, does give an inkling. A mighty mystery that flourishes in secrecy, love has no equal. Love is life, and its absence means death. Every aspect of nature comes alive with love like the leaf, breeze, and mountain. An abundance of love and heart overflows! A gift granted by god among so many others that sustain life, love is the elixir or health tonic of life. 

Finding meanings in deep love 

Researching how deep your love came up with some subtle answers. 

  1. Why or how deep love happens is hard to know. Though baffling, we recognize it when we encounter it. A child with a parent, a worshipper prone in the temple, a worker with a machine.
  2. A desire to improve the condition of the world reflects deep love. Feeling for the weak and helping them or at least desiring to will make a difference. 
  3. Deep love commences with you. Unless you think for yourself, positive emotions for others may not be useful. Not only should we love the self but convince others that they are worthy of love. 
  4. The arms of deep love extend across the world in an embrace that never let's go. Weak and lost, helpless, and miserable, but true love finds a way to help. Care comes naturally in such situations. 
  5. Like comedies in television serials and commercials, don't you agree that love gets silly? Laughing and dancing weirdly as if under the influence of lots of narcotics and alcohol combined! Maybe they abused no substances at all. It is the quaint ecstasy of love. 
  6. True love is exploration and discovery, physical maybe and spiritual too. Your hopes and dreams mean so much that the interest never fades, perhaps all lifelong. Reveal your core being and hear the others do likewise, no secrets remaining.
  7. Frustrations do come and arguments and fights too, hopefully without violence and addictions. Yet, ending with a healthy dose of inspiration should take care of all that. 

Showing how much you love 

Couple making a sign of heart by joing their hands

You can feel the depth of your love when it comes to showing how much you can love someone. Expression of love is undoubtedly needed. Those who bottle it all up suffer often.

Conceal nothing. Go out of your way with words and kisses, hugs, and gifts. 

Experience heightened life together and do the preferred things. 

  1. Flirting makes the couple feel so special and out of this world. 
  2. Speak about those feelings building up deep inside the soul 
  3. Care for one another’s health and nutrition needs 
  4. Exchange notes on family and professional backgrounds 
  5. Get connected in social media and explore familiar friends.
  6. Don’t hesitate to be extroverted and outgoing. 
  7. Talk about the love to the family and friends circle. 
  8. Do things together and fill your lives with action. 
  9. Don’t forget about social work and serving noble causes. 

The fun aspect of the love story 

What the world down the ages has come to revere deeply about love is the fanciful fun aspect. The lovers lost in dreams sing and dance to express their feelings. It might be a picnic or a cruise together, whatever they enjoy most. A relationship that does not love the outdoors and the sun, moon, and stars will be missing out on something crucial. 

Modern cultures may be citybound and witness concrete jungles more than nature. Still, glimpses of greenery in the park and the morning light do inspire. It might be nature sounds heard on YouTube or the family pets that connect them with nature. 

The present is the moment of eternity and lives it to the fullest. There may not be any tomorrow and so seize the moment. Express what lies in the heart and tell your most intimate desires. 

Adore the physical form 

Whether humans or gods, physical manifestation means so much. Take a long look in the mirror. Maybe the dresses and physical features require augmentation. Look and feel your best and spend some money on it. 

Consult with the hairstylist and the makeup person to adopt livelier appearances and attitudes. Look around online and aim for a better understanding of the physical possibilities. 

Avoid negative thoughts 

Get rid of spite, envy, and jealousy even if you had felt them before. It is true that life together may appear overwhelming but live it one day at a time. Surrounded by family, friends, and community, it is not a lonely couple. Take care of relationships and let the sunshine tomorrow. Life is good when you love someone from the bottom of your heart! 

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